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Cancer Journal #4… Victory Gardening

February 18, 2026 hardwarelifewife 2 Comments

The concept of a Victory Garden began during World War I and continued throughout World War II. People were urged to grow their own food, saving resources for the war effort. Victory Gardening was well received during the World War eras and recently we saw a revival of gardening that occurred during the Covid Crisis.

I personally have always enjoyed gardening. Growing flowers, herbs, and sometimes the occasional vegetable to add a dash of flavor into our lives. Fresh cut flowers are a wonderful addition to any space during the Gardening season as well as vegetables. I always hate to see the end of the garden season come to a close as colder weather approaches. Over the years, I have learned, as a gardener, I don’t enjoy weeding the garden! Ugh!!!

Weeds, the unwanted earthy material we desire to rid our flower & vegetable gardens of, forever. Weeds can somehow creep into your garden and appear almost overnight. Weeds steal valuable water & nutrients from your growing garden. And before you know it, your once gorgeous garden is chocked full of weeds and struggling to survive amongst the weeds. It only takes a few warm days of consistent rainfall, for those weeds to take root.

Usually around late February or early March, folks begin to search for their favorite garden seeds… The dream of the new garden begins in earnest once those tiny micro seeds are planted. The ultimate test of faith and hope, growing them inside from the seed starts. Eventually, these seeds will emerge as a small green plant… Ready to transplant once the weather permits. Hmmm… No one ever dreams about growing weeds 😂?? Right?

One of my cancer doctors recently used a “gardening analogy” to describe my experience with cancer. Upon further reflection, it was a clever way to describe everything that has happened thus far, and it just clicked. It is definitely worth sharing.

**Wherever Life plants you, just bloom.**

Stay with me for a moment, I’m going to share a bit of background information:

1. Breast cancer is caused by damage to the DNA of a cell, a mutation.

2. When healthy cells are damaged, those same cells lose their ability to repair themselves, and can continue onto the path of Cancer.

3. Cancer cells have the ability to exhibit uncontrolled growth. They never stop dividing, and these cells don’t die out!

4. The entire process of tumor formation from cancer cells takes on average 8-10 years. This process doesn’t occur overnight.

5. It is also worth mentioning that some Breast Cancers can double in size very quickly from a span of 29 to 200 days. Some Breast cancers grow much slower, like mine. Thankfully!!!

Obviously, other factors can influence cancer, like genetics. But the knowledge that we can control a portion of our own cancer battle is empowering !!! As the saying goes, “Reap what you sow”. Taking care of your garden, can benefit your ultimate harvest….with the outcome of focusing on wellness, physical activity, and good foods can make a difference… in your overall physical health… achieving Victory!!!

**Like a wildflower, grow where people thought you never could**

Cancer treatment will vary depending on the key characteristics of the cancer itself, just like your garden. Each garden is unique to its surroundings, and what is cultivated in the garden space.

I have met several new medical professionals in this cancer journey. Each one of these individuals has a specific role in defeating the cancer. This is where the garden analogy comes into focus. Consider the human body as the garden as you continue to read on.

One of the first doctors I met was my Surgical Oncologist. The role of the Surgical Oncologists, using the garden analogy… She Pulls the “weed” (cancer) directly out and also the areas around the cancer “weed” (gaining clear margins) to ensure that the entire weed root system isn’t left. My cancer was fairly small, 14mm for a nasty little weed.

Next up, my Medical Oncologist. She does “weed pollen control”. My medical oncologist addresses the whole body systems to prevent “weed pollen” from spreading by using medications that can assist in fighting the cancer or help prevent a reoccurrence. I will spend many appointments with her in the future because of the medication (5 year cycle)that is recommended for me after the radiation treatments.

Pollen is the fine, yellow, powdery substance produced by plants and yes, even weeds! Spring pollen season isn’t always a pleasant experience for many who face allergies. But, pollen can play an essential role in the garden. Often plants rely on certain insects, bees, or birds to transport the pollen, while common weeds distribute their pollen by wind. My medical oncologist is trying to prevent the “weed pollen scatter”.

**Bees are wonderful pollinators in the garden**

I recently met my Radiation Oncologist. She is the one who used this garden analogy to describe my experience with cancer thus far. In her role in my cancer care, she targets the area around where the cancer was. In essence, radiation therapy will be the “weed killer”.

Often when you pull up weeds from the garden, especially the big, testy ones with strong roots, you might come behind with a targeted weed killer to ensure that those weeds do not come back. No one wants to do all that weeding work to find several more new weeds in your garden just a few days later!

As she continued with her explanation, Tiny microscopic cancer cells can be left behind even after surgery, the goal of radiation therapy is to kill those cancer cells that might be left behind and help prevent a reoccurrence of cancer.

As I prepare for the next phase of my cancer treatment, Radiation therapy, I find myself full of anticipation… waiting for the next major hurdle to pass. I’m scheduled to begin radiation treatment in early March.

Yet, the desire to grow my garden hasn’t waned. I realize that our personal garden is our own personal story waiting to unfold. Cancer has become a part of my story and a part of my garden that I didn’t expect to grow. Trust me it hasn’t been “all roses and flowers in my garden”. I have found myself recently, deep in the weeds and thorns. My immune system has been weakened due to this cancer and I have fought off Covid for the last two weeks. My own mind’s timeline of healing hasn’t matched my sickness. The rate of recovery has been a bit longer than I anticipated. But I shall continue pulling through the weedy path in my garden.

Thankfully, planting a garden is a definitive expression of hope, and resilience… And our forefathers got it right… the concept of a Victory Garden. I will bloom where I have been planted and turn towards the sunshine. Facing this new path where the weeds are, and begin anew in Victory!

**“Plant A Garden- Plant A Victory Garden” WWII Era Slogan**

Footnote: Please say a prayer for all who are “deep in the weeds” with any type of cancer treatment. My heart is heavy for others who are battling cancer or any other serious illness. This is a battle that no one willing wants to fight but sometimes prayers can provide that strength. Those prayers are often felt at the moment they are needed… that is a victory!

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Cancer Journal #3… A Unique Path to Healing

February 5, 2026 hardwarelifewife 1 Comment

“*Surrender your path, don’t worry about your timing or speed. Walk with joy.”*

Have you been following the Walk of Peace by the Monks? I actually didn’t know about this event until they were walking through Georgia several weeks ago. Richard was talking about this unique event one night a dinner. My interest was peaked and I began following their journey from that point forward. It has been an amazing experience to watch them walk this path, enduring all types of weather conditions from Texas to Washington DC, their final destination.

*Walk for Peace… a journey rooted in kindness, creating awareness of inner peace, and mindfulness*

My path to healing from this cancer feels like a similar journey. I may not be literally walking 2,300 miles, but I’m still moving forward, one day at a time with a specific goal in mind, my return to good health.

“*Sometimes the path isn’t always easy”*

What I have learned thus far is each person’s path to healing from cancer is uniquely different. Breast Cancer isn’t a “cookie cutter” disease.

Even though you may have had the same type of breast cancer as someone you know, the details are unique to you… such as… the size of the tumor, whether cancer was present in lymph nodes, estrogen positive tumor, was the tumor fast growing… and I could go on… but you get the gist. It’s a lot!

“Comparison is the thief of Joy”… so true!!! Your cancer plan of treatment will be unique to your cancer diagnosis and it’s difficult to compare it with anyone else’s journey. Similarities are common, but your path is uniquely shaped by your cancer and your mindset.

***These were my surgery socks… the nurses loved them. Thanks Barb*** 💕

I lost a friend to cancer this past week. She had a different diagnosis from me, and her battle with breast cancer was inspiring. Laura was a true warrior. Laura always had a kick this cancer attitude. When she started her chemotherapy treatment, she wore bright, colorful socks to “sock it to cancer”. She was a tremendous advocate to me when I began having concerns and questions about my micro-cysts in 2020. I felt better after talking to her as I began the navigating the path forward.

*“Be bold enough to choose your own path and strong enough to follow it.”*

I was upset to learn recently that Laura had relapsed, and her time was growing short. As word of her passing came to light, I was deeply saddened. Laura led with a warm beaming smile always, and her beautiful soul matched her life.

I was also trying to wrap my mind on potential future cancer relapses, and how to move forward. For sure, the ONE thing that all cancer patients experience, in their journey that isn’t unique… the fear of reoccurrence. Will it happen to me? That reality of cancer is often hard. Yet, I wanted to recognize Laura’s fight. I felt led to carry on Laura’s colorful sock tradition, one day at a time.

*Sock it to Breast Cancer… an easy way to show support to a family member or anyone you might know who is fighting cancer , a daily reminder to say a prayer for them as you get dressed each day.*

I’m currently at a in-between stage… recovering from surgery and waiting for completion of healing before next steps happen. My surgery went well, no cancer in lymph nodes, all margins were clear after the cancer tumor was removed. I have met again with my medical oncologist and we are discussing medications moving forward AND, I’m currently waiting to begin radiation. I have an appointment this week to meet yet another doctor, my radiation oncologist.

Several people have approached me saying how much they appreciated my cancer blog posts and my bold choice to write about it. My decision to write about my cancer journey is not based on gaining support of others but the opposite, as a way to offer support to those who might need it… if Cancer finds them or a family member. Navigating the Cancer pathway isn’t always easy.

*Just like a snow covered road, you need a good navigator and 4×4! Thankful for my family, friends and medical professionals who are helping me navigate this cancer.*

AND I have questions… lots of them!!! The internet and social media is a total vacuum of information, some good, some information probably not very useful… luckily, I have amazing doctors who can advise and guide me and who take TIME to answer my questions in compassionate manner.

*The path back to Wilkes from Winston Salem is often a reminder of the beauty of our home. Thankful for the Mountains that welcome us back home each trip. A small blessing in my cancer journey.*

After cancer surgery, it might be easy to assume, the cancer is gone! Get your life back to normal, and just eat what you want! But, surgery completion is just a starting point on my cancer journey. Often Breast cancer patients will need either radiation or chemotherapy. Radiation therapy can capture any remaining microscopic cancer cells that are present unseen by the human eye. Chemotherapy is a much more invasive to the body systems, for those who have a higher stage or risk of cancer returning.

My Oncotype score was on the lower end, so Chemotherapy was not needed! Thankful 💕

As I have been in this “in-between stage”, I have intentionally chosen to focus on what my body now has become accustomed to, eating more Whole Foods… Maximizing my potential for success in this fight. Why did I choose this??? Less processed foods and added chemicals in my diet is a good thing to reduce any future cancer risk and this will help me maintain a healthier lifestyle overall. We will all benefit from this simple shopping adjustment in my family.

In my “internet vacuum of research”, reading my manual from the Cancer Center, talking with other cancer survivors, and I have even participated in discussions with a cancer dietitian! I have learned that what you eat is just as important as exercise, and any medications you may take. All of these factors work together to defeat the cancer. Maximize!

*Hydration is key… the choice to drink Lemon water all day, not only for Cancer recovery, but I also had a kidney stone flair in the midst of my cancer diagnosis. That was not fun!!!*

With this Whole Foods approach, I’m concentrating on eating healthy proteins 90grams… limiting sugars 25g, using fruit as a natural source of sugars that my body needs, fiber 25g(beans, whole grains, natural fruits/vegetables) and of course hydration is key!!

*We switched milk brands prior to my cancer diagnosis, glad we did that! I can grab protein in this milk!!! And you can make a great homemade hot chocolate with this milk brand too!*

Protein Hot Chocolate 2 servings: 2 cups Fairlife milk, 2 T cocoa, 2T Monk fruit, dash of vanilla, 1/4 c chocolate chips, and cinnamon for extra cancer fighting power. Warm milk over low heat, add cocoa, monk fruit, stir well. Once well incorporated, add chocolate chips to melt, dash of vanilla flavoring, and dash of cinnamon. Stir well until chocolate is dissolved and milk is warm. Enjoy!

In my mind, being intentional about what I put on my plate each day or even what I’m snacking on can make a world of difference in my recovery. So, what IF I decided to go back to “my old normal” routines, ways of eating, could that spur a cancer reoccurrence?? Maybe, maybe not… but why take that risk? Healthier habits can help my body in other areas as I move into the next portion of my path, Radiation and Estrogen suppression medications.

*My mom found this low sugar, high protein yogurt for me over Thanksgiving… I absolutely love this brand!!! Tried a few others but this one is my favorite.. Aldi brand by the way*

When two trees are joined together like this one pictured below, it’s called inosculation. The trees themselves… trunks, roots and branches physically morph into one. The location of the where they connect can be different. My photo capture shows them morphing at the base. Inosculation happens when the friction between two trees causes the outer bark of each tree to scrape off at the point of contact… creating an opening to connect together .

This is where I’m at on my cancer journey. My old life is merging into one with my cancer, the friction, sharing it as one. Merged together forever, creating a new path.

*Inosculation at the base… marriage of two trees… Creating a Union of the Path*

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Fall Y’all

November 27, 2025 hardwarelifewife Leave a comment

From the last of the summer blooms to the changing of the leaves… Fall is Here! The Fall season brings apple and pumpkin season, gentle breezes and the solitary tune of the wind chimes. Fall hints at cooler temperatures, the changing of the sun cycle bringing less daylight creating a colorful change in nature through leaves turning and falling, crunching under foot. The vibrant colors that light the morning and evening skies… Autumn has arrived. As we head into the holiday season, here’s to celebrating Fall ONE last time.

October Skies… Simply Amazing

Changing of the Leaves

Jethro is enjoying the Leaves everywhere

Thankful for the opportunity to enjoy another beautiful Fall season! 🍂🍁 Thank you for reading and sharing.

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Sky Watch

September 23, 2025 hardwarelifewife Leave a comment

Are you a Sky Watcher? Do you find inspiration or joy each day by the watching the bright blue skies? Ever find yourself looking up for the storm clouds that are forming around the edges of the skyline? The Sky is a magnificent canvas that “paints” our daily world. The Sky “canvas” changes from day to day, as well as our weather.

Storm clouds rolling in Summer of 2025 near WCH

It was another ordinary teaching workday. By October in the “teacher world” we are fully engaged into our curriculum and integrating every single factual nugget into any conversation. I’ll admit that Seventh grade science and Social Studies provided an excellent opportunity to learn more about our weather. We routinely followed storms in the Atlantic, all the while, honing our Social Studies skills of mapping, and plotting latitude and longitude coordinates. This wasn’t a unit that we completed and left behind in the Fall, we continued to discuss it as the year progressed as the seasons changed. But let me get back to the subject here…

Graphic notes were a standard form of learning in my classroom to help students piece information together in a new unique meaningful way.

It truly was a typical day, a Monday. Normally, I would stay and work and prep for the next school day, until around 5pm. There was always plenty to do, papers to grade, grades to put into computer after grading, run copies, set up graphics for the next day, the list was long. But at 4:00 pm on Monday October 23, 2017, I decided to go home. Actually, something told me internally to go home, so I did. I’m very thankful that I chose to go home.

My drive home from work averaged about 20 minutes, by the time I arrived there, the weather was changing rapidly. I’m not really sure that I was noticing the dramatic weather changes from the skyward view.

My son was already home from school, snacking, doing homework. We both quickly realized that a significant thunderstorm storm was approaching. The sky was painting up a stormy forecast. Gathering up the pups and ourselves, we sheltered in place in the bathroom, this was a first for us.

We had 3 sweet pups at that time…Bella, Elvis,and Gigi

I had gotten a text message from my brother in law who said a tornado warning had been issued for our area. This was significant news for me because he works for the National Weather Service in another nearby state. Shelter in place was necessary. Meanwhile…. Richard was trying to get closed up at the hardware store, but the storm came up way too quickly and he had to wait it out. The storm rolled through our area and caused significant damage in our local communities.

In the aftermath of the storm, Richard had a difficult time finding a way around the storm chaos, broken tree limbs, downed trees were scattered across most major avenues.

These items are always in demand after a big storm

If you are local, you probably remember this storm, because it did cause significant damage to our community and the National Weather Service surveyed our area and found that an EF-1 tornado touchdown had occurred.

Sadly, another tornado touchdown was confirmed in April 2024 in Wilkes. Hurricane Helene hit our surrounding communities in September 2024. Severe Weather can leave a defined impact upon our communities.

That’s thing about Severe Weather… it can occur anywhere and seemingly anytime under the right conditions. What is classified as Severe Weather??? Thunderstorms, flash flooding, damaging winds, tornadoes, large hail, extreme temperatures (hot or cold), and winter storms (ice/snow).

A heavy downpour can quickly wreak havoc. A large, powerful thunderstorm cell can unload a large amount of rainfall in an area in a short period of time. We have personally experienced the power of water. A very short, severe thunderstorm brought flash flooding into our hardware store in August of 2020.

Several inches of water infiltrated our hardware store 5 years ago, in an unexpected and very heavy rain storm

Water is a powerful force, you can’t physically stop the flow of that water. Think about the power of water flowing in a river and going against that flow to stop it. Yes, not happening.

Severe weather happens. Is it happening more frequently??? Last September, our mountain neighbors, witnessed devastation with Hurricane Helene. For our mountain neighbors, it will be a long recovery timeline.

I know my storm experiences aren’t unique by any stretch. Living life today, we all probably have personal stories of how storms have impacted our daily lives. Trees land in precarious places, power outages occur, bursting water pipes from extreme temperatures, technology failures happen, shortages of needed supplies, the list is long!!

Folding pruning blade would come in handy to quickly trim up any smaller branches from a downed tree after severe weather

But, how can we be always ready for impactful weather, whenever it happens? Now, is a perfect time to gather together any needed essentials as 2025 Hurricane season is churning up OR even before the cooler “BER” days begin.

Keeping a few essential items on hand for such emergencies will help eliminate the stress of locating needed supplies after a impactful storm. Severe weather can occur in any season: winter snow/ice storms, thunderstorms, flash flooding, damaging winds, tornadoes, hail, or temperature extremes.

Begin by building OR refreshing your Emergency Kit:

When the lights go out… you will need batteries, flashlight, oil lanterns, lamp oil, matches, battery powered lightbulbs, and think about how will you power up your devices during an extended outage… like a power bank.

**WCH Recommends:** Portable, multi purpose power bank to charge your devices, can be used as an air compressor, and jump start.

**WCH Recommends:** Keep your batteries well stocked!

**WCH Recommends:** These absolutely work beautifully during a power outage!!!

Wear this headlamp after the power goes out… you can clearly map out an area in your view

Pop up lanterns are great for a power outage, place them around the house

Brrr… it’s cold!!!

Power is out, and it’s freezing outside, do you have an alternate heating source? Make sure that your smoke detector and carbon monoxide detectors are working properly as well!

Kerosene heaters offer an excellent alternative for heating during an extended power outage. WCH services these heaters each season for our customers.

Plasma lighter would be perfect inside your emergency kit or for camping trips

Need a quick warm up??? These logs will work great, burn for 3 hours.

**WCH Recommends:** Protect outdoor faucets before frigid temperatures are forecasted.

Helpful tools- quick repairs might be needed during a severe weather event like having to turn off the water, taking care of fallen branches, securing items down, etc. Here’s a quick list of some basic tools that might be helpful: multi-tool, tarp, rope/ paracord, gloves, folding pruning saw, chain saw, duct tape, hammer, wrench, pliers, shovel, whistle, dust masks… just to name a few!

Hand tools are always readily available at WCH

Tarps and rope… severe weather essentials

Food: Planning for this can be tricky during a power outage : Refrigerator and freezers need to stay closed in a short temporary power outage. Food will spoil quickly in a matter of a few days without adequate cooling. It is Always good to keep bottled water, a manual can opener, and non perishable food on hand. It is also good to have extra paper products on hand (plates, cups, paper towels, trash bags)

An old fashioned hand held can opener always a kitchen staple… two styles available at WCH

Good for cleaning up around the house or after severe weather events

Thinking about food preparation– do you have a way to warm food safely without power? Camping size grill??? Gas grill??? Camping stoves???

Lodge makes a Cast Iron Grill… a great camping essential or great for power outages

These always sell out during power outages, storm season

Pets: don’t forget to include your pets into the food equation!

Jethro says to keep all medications ready to go as well as food

First Aid kit and Personal Care: in addition to the basic first aid kit, make sure needed prescriptions are included, alongside the daily essentials like toothpaste, shampoo, etc

Documents: In case of an emergency evacuation, have your important documents AND an extra set of keys ready to go!

**WCH Recommends:** Having an extra set of keys… house and cars… or other important keys you might need access to kept with your most valuable documents.

WCH can order a fire safe box for all of your documents… ask us about that soon if that’s something you need!

Coming soon to WCH… Fire Safe Chest 14x11x6

Coming soon to WCH!!! This document bag will stand up to basic fire and water resistance standards

**WCH Recommends:** Milwaukee Marker… writes on sawdust, wet or almost any surface!!!

Stay Connected: Emergency information is available for many types of situations at Ready.Gov or stay tuned to the ever changing weather conditions locally OR use the National Weather Service as a resource. Free apps to download: American Red Cross, FEMA just to name a few. A weather radio is always a great way to learn more about fast approaching storm fronts when the traditional outlets (internet, radio, tv, etc) are not available.

***Lastly, don’t forget the fun… board games, puzzles , legos, card games… things your kids don’t always have the opportunity to enjoy everyday when the power is out.***

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Summer Photography 2025

September 1, 2025 hardwarelifewife 2 Comments

It is so hard to believe that the Summer of 2025 is coming to an end soon! This blog post is devoted to my photography favorites from this Summer as a reminder of some of my treasured moments. I hope that you will enjoy these photos that I have complied as the Best of Summer in photographic form… a “love story” of Summer.

Life is Always Better In The Garden…

Flower Tower Power!!! “Heavy Metal” Project

Summer Snapshots…

Fresh Blackberries… it’s Sonker time! Sonker Summers

July 4th Fireworks…

Summer Mountain Time… We spent some restful, quality time this summer at our friend’s cabin on Buck Mountain. I’m always amazed by the beauty that surrounds me there. I hope you enjoy these captures as much as we did.