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Cancer Journal #7- The Transformative Power of Grace and Making Lemonade

May 17, 2026 hardwarelifewife Leave a comment

In my previous career, I was a Middle School Educator. Often times Middle School scheduling created groups of students who pretty much stayed together for most of the day. After all of that togetherness, day after day… and months … sometimes the tensions between students would become apparent.

One specific group that I taught in my last few years of teaching, it was evident they were wearing on each other’s nerves.

So, one afternoon, we had a quick conversation or a “pep talk” about offering each other Grace and showing a bit more patience with each other. I quickly moved onto the lesson for that day and didn’t think much about it.

I had no idea that the talk about Grace had really stuck with them until a few days later.

This same group of students was beginning to line up in the hallway. Our destination was the lunchroom. A sweet middle school girl quickly raised her hand as we were beginning our departure down the hallway.

I stopped the group to see what she needed. She then said, “I need some help with Grace this afternoon. I’ve tried to get these two boys to quit goofing around and they aren’t listening. Can you take over please Mrs. Searcy? I used up all my Grace that I have left”.

**Grace**: *Finding beauty in the ordinary days*

I was stunned. The Grace conversation had stuck with that group of impressionable young middle schoolers. Everyone giggled at the two mischievous boys who were now in my charge, quickly falling into line like they should. They totally understood what giving each other Grace meant, and had been actively practicing it.

That’s where I find myself recently in recovery mode of my Cancer Journey, Practicing Grace. I have come to realize that Cancer recovery isn’t linear, each day is uniquely different. Patience is key.

Thinking about Grace in this context of cancer recovery offers me the opportunity to begin again after the rougher health days. Grace isn’t perfection. Grace is the gateway…to allow the moments of peace to flow when times are tough, when I’m feeling exhausted, and noting the same aches and pains everyday. Grace has given me the quiet power to move through my Cancer recovery.

Grace…tempered with dignity and compassion. Grace… A new level of understanding and empathy as an individual…as others face a new Cancer Diagnosis or currently going through treatment. I totally get it, we all need a bit of Grace to make it through.

*In a field of pink and yellow… spot the red… over 2 million people will be diagnosed with cancer this year.*

Grace … allowing patience with my healing. Grace…always teaching me what cancer recovery is like.

What I have learned???

1. Cancer surgery and treatments take a tremendous toll on the body. The interconnectedness of body systems is truly revealing in the face of cancer.

2. Each person’s path with cancer is different, one common thread… the drained exhaustion/fatigue. This feeling exists for all cancer survivors even after a good nights rest.

3. Cancer recovery has been a roller coaster ride of sorts over the last 6 months with physical symptoms that don’t seem to easily disappear. Cancer wrecks your immune system and disrupts your body chemistry. I’ve literally been playing “wack a mole” since my cancer diagnosis. Here’s a quick rundown of my last few months…

Initial mammogram results showed additional testing needed… at the same time I was diagnosed with a Bone spur on my shoulder in November 2025
Official Cancer diagnosis in early December 2025
Unreal Hot flashes… Since my breast cancer was estrogen positive, I needed to discontinue my medication that had kept the hot flashes at bay for the last several years. These hot flashes have intensified to the point where my sleep is continuously disrupted significantly…(see Menopause paragraph below) November 2025.
Kidney stones December 2025
Cancer Surgery and recovery January-February 2026
My first battle with Covid- February 2026
Radiation- March 2026
Began Estrogen Suppression meds for 5 years-March 2026
Side effects noted from new medication (bone and joint pain) making me feel like I’m experiencing the flu all the time, fatigue, hot flashes that intensified even more 😬. March 2026
Bone Spur on heel April 2026
Began the process of working with the Cancer Integrative Medicine to find alternatives for restoration of sleep, hot flashes etc hopeful to find relief of side effects from new medication- April 2026
UTI due to lack of estrogen from new meds, Bacterial infection… working with my care team currently to navigate this new issue known as GSM. April 2026
Fatigue… Cancer wipes out your energy. Even after Cancer Treatment, the fatigue lingers. Cancer treatment destroys the cancer cells but in the process it can harm good cells. Cells are rebuilding themselves and the energy reserves wanes during that rebuilding process, even with good restorative sleep. I have found that fatigue can onset suddenly or it can be a daily problem. (Ongoing)

*Family history of cancer is important to know, the more you know about your family medical history, the better care you can receive from your medical provider*, *especially if you have family members with a cancer history*

I’m sharing these things with y’all NOT to try to create sympathy, but to bring a bit of awareness of how integrated our body systems are. My cancer diagnosis/recovery has amplified some of these issues.

*The most common cancers that are diagnosed: breast, colon, prostate, lung. Screenings are crucial for all*

Cancer Recovery is an ongoing process. As previously mentioned, Cancer can create a literal physical break down of body systems… ultimately impacting how you feel, think, and react.

If you know people who are currently experiencing cancer, in the recovery phase, or living life beyond cancer, extend Grace.

Just asking them something like “How are you feeling today” or “I’m here, I’m listening” can go a long way.

Life is truly distinctly different after Cancer. The physical body is different. As a result, the changes I’m making after Cancer are life altering. My Dietary changes have been significant, with a key focus on good protein, fiber, and less sugar. I’m also trying to be mindful of daily movement, even if it just moving inside doing daily chores on the days that fatigue hits hard.

*Grocery shopping is forever changed! Shopping the outside perimeter of the grocery store is common practice for me now.*

Breast Cancer recovery is messy as most cancer recovery tends to be. Menopause for most women occurs naturally. In that natural menopause state, your body slowly has time to adjust the amount of estrogen that is decreasing in your body systems.

*When diagnosed at an early, localized stage of breast cancer… before spreading, the 5-year relative survival rate is 98-99%.*

But with estrogen suppression medication, (which is often used to help prevent a reoccurrence after an estrogen positive tumor), menopause crashes hard in your body systems.

This crash is happening immediately without that natural process of losing estrogen slowly. With the sudden crash, it wreaks havoc in all sorts of ways upon the body systems. The typical side effects of Menopause, hit more like a boulder crashing… and is much more intense.

Allowing Grace to live within me helps me not only in cancer recovery, but gives me the opportunity to make adjustments as needed, doing what I can physically do from day to day after experiencing such a crash.

*How fitting… Women’s Health Week May 10-16, beginning on a day we celebrate Mother’s Day!*

Scrolling on Pinterest the other day I came across a term that describes my cancer journey perfectly…Lemonading. What happens when life hands you lemons???? You make Lemonade! Using that theory, you have 🍋 lemons… find the positivity, and make the lemonade!

It is estimated that men and women who have experienced hormone based cancers or treatment therapies are 25-50% more likely to discontinue treatment based on the difficulty of side effects these cause.

Lemonading in my daily life has allowed me to reflect and re-evaluate what is really important and my goals are shifting and changing to some degree.

Life Lemonading Lately:

1. My day tends to start a bit more slowly. This allows time to ease into the day instead of worrying about a specific time oriented schedule.

2. Spring has arrived… gardening has been a great restorative practice for me.

*Gardening provides a great opportunity for movement and in Blue Zones research, a great longevity practice*

3. Working less hours at the hardware store… I’m thankful that we have an AMAZING staff who are there each day! This has allowed me the time to flex my schedule around how I’m feeling, allowing myself time to rest and recover.

4. I’m working towards finding solutions to the side effects of estrogen suppression meds… body aches, fatigue, intense hot flashes, by using resources from the Integrative Cancer Center in Winston Salem.

5. I now have a greater focus on restorative sleep. During our sleep cycle, our body repairs and rejuvenates itself. It’s a necessity and I’m definitely trying to adapt to a new sleep schedule and recognizing my body signals to create a more restful atmosphere for myself. Acupuncture has been a huge help in restoring my sleep and managing symptoms.

6. Continuing to explore creative outlets… it really does not matter what you do, but do something you enjoy!!! Solving puzzles,playing board games, writing, creating art, photography, gardening, pottery, or even cooking (testing new healthy recipes). Maintaining my creative outlets has helped me to stay connected with others and adds to my overall wellbeing.

*Pottery is one of my favorite creative outlets*

7. Giving back to the Cancer Community… I recently participated in the American Cancer Society Relay for Life. My team was able to raise over $2,100 to help cancer patients.

*Relay For Life funds not only cancer research, but provides needed support to cancer patients*

Lemonading through this cancer recovery process has become a new normal for me. A definite transformative process.. centering around the power of Grace. This simple yet profound concept can guide us through the toughest days, fostering empathy and understanding.

*Breast cancer is one of the most common cancers among women, followed by skin cancer in second place*

I’ll leave y’all today with the chorus of one of my favorite new songs Ride, Ride, Ride by Luke Bryan and George Birge which fits life perfectly right now.

“Ride, ride, ride,
When the clouds rollin’ in ’til the sun’s back again

*Grace and Lemonading Life brings the sun closer to me during hard recovery days*

And you’ll find, find, find
That what you’re made of is barbed wire tough,

Stare down the storm, you bring on the rain

Life will throw you off boy, but saddle up anyway
And ride, ride, ride
Ride, ride, ride”.

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Yard Personality

May 7, 2026 hardwarelifewife Leave a comment

From the farm to the classic Southern porch, outdoor spaces have always been a source of comfort and connection. Whether it’s a grandparent’s porch or a friend’s carport, these outdoor spaces offer a perfect blend of all things nature and relaxation. All the while, these outdoor areas reveal a sense of personal warmth permeating from the home. Read on and learn more about creating your own unique Yard Personality.

I can remember going to visit my Grandparents house which we called “the farm”. As young kids we had a large open space to run and play outside. Often as you would drive up to the farm, you could find my Grandma and Grandpa Adams outside on the porch or they would be sitting under a shade tree in lawn chairs.

*Old Beautiful trees dotted my Grandparents landscape at the farm as a young kid*

The cousins group had loads of fun playing on the farm. We had a large open space to run and play outside. Thankfully, we were always within earshot and eyesight of the adults who were visiting outside. A small creek ran behind the house and we cousins would end up there in our wanderings and play.

I recently visited a friend. We were sitting outside on her carport. She has created a sweet, little spot to retreat to… complete with an outdoor rug, comfortable, cushioned chairs, music playing, and yes, a ceiling fan just to name a few amenities. The natural breeze flowing through the porch made it a perfect spot to spend a warm afternoon in conversation with good friends.

These family memories coupled with my recent visit to my friends house, got me to thinking about how people use or don’t use their space/ yard and how “individual personality” can impact outdoor spaces and its uses.

*Living on a Farm… yard personality of its own*

Growing up and living in the South, I would like to note that probably one of the most common outdoor spaces that people use are porches… front/back porch, or maybe even a screened in porch.

**Porches: a place where stories are told and memories are made** …This long, large porch located in Valle Crucis has been a favorite of ours *for many years*

The PORCH… where HOME meets the outside world. A porch allows us to connect with the exterior world, all the while, enjoying the creature comforts of being HOME.

These outdoor “rooms” are often used as a gathering place or even as a place of retreat. On a Southern porch, you can definitely “sit a spell”… one can watch traffic go by, swing, rock the day away in your favorite chair, view the stars at night, or simply listen to the sounds of nature.

Within the confines of a porch outdoor space, one can let the worries of the day wash away. Complete with and no phones or technology. Add in a cold beverage in hand, and the perfect porch sitting weather is upon us, minus the pollen!!

*New Rocking Chairs from WCH are a perfect way to spend a afternoon relaxing on a porch or deck*

As we sometimes do, Richard and I will go for a drive on a sunny afternoon. I love to “window watch” from the vehicle window as we make our way down the country roads.

Those Sunday afternoon adventures make me realize that Summertime is a wonderful time to notice the little bits and pieces of Yard Personality from the exterior and my car window…You know it when you see it as we make the “drive by”. Kids in the yard playing games, or even noting an interest in gardening with flowers abounding from the yard. Then I spot Rocking Chairs on the front porch as we pass by. The visible story of the homeowners unraveling right in front of your eyes… neatly kept lawn and shrubs, and orderly gardens. Or maybe just the opposite, flowing gardens that seamlessly wander from one area to another, featuring an old chair, chipping paint holding a garden treasure, the grass waiting to be mowed. Both of these scenarios create a sense of order and peace for each homeowner because that’s exactly what they wanted. Marked distinct features of personality that dominate the Yard…just from a quick glance as we drive past.

This chippy chair holds a strawberry plant on my back porch.

Have you ever thought about your distinct yard personality??? I haven’t ever given this topic much consideration, until recently. Is this really a legitimate topic… Absolutely!!!

First let’s define the term “YARD”. According to our purposes of this topic… a YARD is the entire surrounding area around the house, including the grass, pavement, porches, other outdoor spaces, and includes dedicated gardens.

*Walkways are an important part of Yard Personalization, visually what is seen as you approach the front door? Is it welcoming to visitors?*

In essence, the YARD is ALL useable outdoor space. Looking at the term YARD, the opposite is true in the United Kingdom. The garden IS the whole. Yard would not be the proper terminology.

*Gardens are the baseline of the individualized personality in the UK, it’s nice to include the whole perimeter of your usable area in **Yard Personalization** here in the US*

Processing this new concept of Yard Personality, I think it’s crucial to understand that People will prioritize their needs and wants into how they want to use their yard based upon what it’s important to them. Of course, often budget is a factor… but the use of good ol’ elbow grease, sweat equity and repurposing materials can make a huge impact!

After a quick visit at my friend’s house, I concluded that she has beautifully created a place to relax and uses that space as a place to retreat after a long day at work.

According to a quick Google search, most people fall into a few key categories when it comes to YARD PERSONALITY. I was extremely curious to see where I would fall… or not be found.🧐 Would my style potentially overlap with more than one???

*This sweet little stained glass frog would look great in any outdoor space.*

My curiosity got the best of me and I kept diving into it. Here’s my modified list to keep it simple and easier for writing purposes.

Yard Personalities:

1. The Lawn Expert… these individuals create a carefully designed and manicured/maintained yard. Gardens are well kept or maybe not present because the emphasis is literally on the beautiful the yard itself.

*The Gardens pictured here at Tryon Palace are a perfect example of the “Expert”*

2. The Lover of Nature… The Yard and Gardens meandering about, flowing with a variety of colors and styles of flowers. Areas are designed in the yard to attract various species of wildlife(hummingbirds, birds, butterflies, etc) and you may find seating areas present to enjoy the fruits of their labor throughout the entire yard.

*Planting to attract wide variety of bees, butterflies, etc*

*Bird houses and feeders in all shapes and sizes available at WCH*

3. The Entertainer…This individual may have a Grilling area is set up to entertain and to cook up a great meal, a festive outdoor table set to welcome friends and family, maybe a fire pit to welcome guests, lawn games, swimming pool, you name it, the Entertainer will have it!

*BBQ sauces, rubs, Traeger pellets, and grill accessories all available at WCH for the summer entertainer*

4. The Kid and/or Pet Friendly Yard… Basketball, volleyball, soccer goals set up in yard, or swimming pool visible…riding toys scattering along the driveway or the yard, outdoor play areas created for the kids, or maybe even a tree house. Backyard fences keep the kids and pets within view and allow them to play safely.

*Pool water testing and chemicals are available for purchase at WCH all summer long for family fun😎*

This is just a small sample of brainstorming that I did to imagine these different types of Yard Personalities. I feel sure that this is only scratching the surface!

My mind then wandered back to my own to Spring “to do list” as I began refining and defining my Yard Personality. 🧐. What area(s) did I want to focus upon in my own YARD???? After some thought, I decided our back porch needed a bit of TLC.

*A good back porch cleaning was necessary… we have some great items at WCH for outdoor clean up*

So I’ll pose the same questions to you. Did you find a Yard Personality that you strongly identified with??? Is your yard in shape for the upcoming Spring and Summer season??? 🧐🧐🧐

*These handmade wind chimes would make a great addition to any yard or garden*

Currently, I’m slowly trying to make a few projects a reality and keeping within budget using objects that I already have… finding a new way to repurpose them, and adding in color/texture as I can. I’ve slowly been working on my back porch area over the last few weeks adding a few things to make it more comfortable for us to use on a regular basis in hopes that it will become a welcoming space for all of us as well as our guests.

Work in progress from my back porch, flowers still yet to be planted, repurposing my strawberry planter as a quick side table… hanging baskets and crates to warm up the siding using vinyl siding clips, very easy project!!!

Another thing worth mentioning, a portion of Yard Personality can be attributed to how you use found objects or even Art in your space.

*These unique outdoor lanterns add a nice touch of Art and beauty to your existing landscape*

Art is often a form of creative expression and imagination which can be found in a visual form. It could be the appearance of hand created objects, like bird houses, or feeders, or the appearance of a symphony of vibrant colors from the garden, or Yard Art.

*These PVC bird houses found at WCH are exceptional!!! Long lasting and made in NC!!!*

The use of Art can evolve with your imagination and creativity all the while, looking at needs and wants within a given outdoor space… ultimately bringing vibrancy to your Yard.

Let your imagination and creative energy shine this year! Wilkes County Hardware is here to support your new found passion and dedication to creating and developing your own unique Yard Personality, making home a true place of retreat and comfort.

*Store Hours: Monday through Friday 8am-6pm , Saturday 9am-3pm*

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Cancer Journal #5- Simple Switches for a Lifetime of Health

March 8, 2026 hardwarelifewife 5 Comments

I’ve been attempting to learn how to play Mahjong. This tile game has been around for many years and has become extremely popular recently. When the opportunity to learn to play came my way, I decided to try my hand at this tile game, and laughing with good friends an extra healthy benefit ☺️.

Sometimes in the middle the midst of a game, I can sense that the tiles I need to complete my hand are not coming to me. It’s time to pivot. When playing Mahjong, hopefully this insight comes earlier in the game than later… Is there potentially another hand that I can easily switch to… making a swap for success???

Mahjong Tiles on the mat before the game begins!

Recently, I was talking with another cancer patient, who is also a good friend and it’s worth mentioning that I have relied on his own personal experiences with cancer as my own cancer health journey has unfolded. Carl and I often discuss the “good foods” for cancer patients, and discuss the research behind it. Carl said something very insightful in a recent conversation. Looking back, I’m not even really sure what foods we were discussing at that time, but what he said definitely stuck with me. What Carl basically said that totally describes the evolution of how cancer has impacted my food choices… it is the simple swaps that creates the lasting change, adding them in slowly over time.

In reflection of that conversation, have been just that! Cancer has brought about the time to pivot… just like my Mahjong game analogy!

My dietary switches haven’t been a sprint to the finish line but a slow, steady pace of change, with the focus on nutrient rich foods to fuel my body through this cancer journey. I’m very thankful for dear friends who have been down this path of healthy eating during treatment and yes, even after active treatment, who have been able to guide me through this new way of eating. Thank you fellow cancer survivors and friends… your support means the world to me!

Food plays a key role in prevention…“you are what you eat”, as the old saying goes … it is true! Our overall dietary choices impacts inflammation, metabolism, and yes, future disease risk. Being diagnosed with Breast Cancer has definitely changed what I consume. The nutritional needs of a cancer patient focuses on the maintenance of muscle mass, while combining healthy eating as well as boosting the immune system. In order for all that to happen, simple swaps have been necessary for better health.

Instead of potato chips I have made purple sweet potato chips!!! A fun little swap

Breast Cancer patients need a good portion of protein each day (90 grams). Please keep in mind, these recommendations are for women… men your recommendations may look slightly different! Good sources of Lean animal proteins… chicken and fish, eggs, and whole grains. Beans/legumes are all good sources of protein. I’ve been experimenting with lentils recently as a new additional swap. I recently made a lentil casserole… lentils, mushrooms, and veggies. We enjoyed it!

My cancer dietician used the analogy of imagining a deck of cards as a guide for protein on your plate. That “deck of cards of protein” on your plate would be equivalent to around 28 grams.

Chicken is a dietary staple. I was struggling to figure out how to boost my remaining white rice in my pantry to add more nutritional value… added frozen veggies and saffron and it was a definite improvement!!!

According to the cancer dietary guidelines, some Proteins need limiting…red meat! Ugh!!! Red meat lovers… this one is hard! Red meat consumption (18 ounces week) and another suggestion…eliminating processed meats (sandwich meats, bacon, sausage, hot dogs, pepperoni, etc)!!! That’s right… BACON!!!😬

Why??? Processed meats are considered a class 1 carcinogens. These types of meats include chemicals that can increase risk of developing certain types of cancer like colon cancer and other cancers. More research is ongoing but it is definitely worth noting this.

Based on my research, and discussions with my cancer dietitian… I am trying to make half of each meal fruits or vegetables. Vegetables are a powerful source of not only fiber but nutrients needed in the body. The goal is to have at least 25g of fiber and LESS than 25g of sugar a day. Folks, that’s not a lot of sugar… bye, bye dessert! 😳

Cruciferous vegetables are fantastic for cancer patients… broccoli, cauliflower, red cabbage, Brussel sprouts

As a result of these new switches over time, I have begun to decrease my carb intake since last November. Pasta is pretty much a thing of the past for me and I don’t miss it. It is also worth noting, Carbohydrates and sugar are important in maintaining a healthy diet and I haven’t totally ignored them.

Instead of pasta… I have moved to a full plate of steamed vegetables with some spaghetti sauce. It is absolutely one of my favorite switches!!

Let’s move onto the elephant in the room… Sugar. Sugar is found in two forms.. natural sugars and added sugars(processed sugars). Natural sugars are the way to go! Natural sugars that are found in whole, unprocessed foods such as fruits, milk, vegetables and grains…these are considered complex carbohydrates.

Breakfast fruits (natural sugars) with Low sugar Yogurt gives me a punch of protein too!

The body processes complex carbohydrates more efficiently and slowly. It is more work for your body to digest complex carbohydrates than digesting simple sugars. Processing simple sugars can create spikes of glucose in your body. Complex carbohydrates contain fiber, vitamins, minerals and phytochemicals in addition to natural sugars. All of these nutrients are important to overall energy, health and immunity.

So here’s the kicker for cancer patients… Every cell in the body requires glucose for fuel, including cancer cells, AND glucose also feeds the cells in the rest of the body. We cannot pick and choose which cells get what nutrients/fuel… the phrase sugar feeds cancer cells is somewhat true!

The fact is that all cells, including cancer cells, need sugar in the form of glucose to generate energy. All Cells use glucose the way cars use gas for fuel. Normal cells use a reasonable amount of gas, but cancer cells are like gas guzzlers! 😳

Cancer cells are like cars with the accelerator stuck to the floor, using glucose at higher rates because they are dividing at much faster rates than normal cells.

*Cancer cells definitely don’t use a speed limit!!! 😬*

What is absolutely amazing… dietary switches and changes can limit that gas guzzler impact!!! If those changes or swaps aren’t made, diets in high in added sugars and ultra-processed foods can continue to increase inflammation over time. Chronic inflammation isn’t great for overall health.. which can lead to a weakened immune system…opening the door for other diseases or yes, maybe even a cancer reoccurrence!!! No way!!! , I definitely don’t want that, so the switch is on!

All this being said about the necessity of cancer nutrition, I’m not depriving myself of a special treat every now and then. I definitely will enjoy a side of French fries or tots with a meal every-once-in -a while or my favorite comfort food. AND it worth saying, that Eating out can be a challenge. My overall palate has begun to change and I physically need more vegetables and fruits to balance out my diet, that can be hard to find at certain places.

Stuffed flounder with crab and shrimp on a bed of hash browns… a little treat with lots of good stuff still on the plate… spinach included!

Making switches in my diet has been an ongoing learning process… eating and shopping for great cancer fighting foods. I grocery shop now by turning labels over before I buy. It will stay on the shelf if the sugar content is too high or nutrient value is too low. It has been a journey to find new products and recipes that will fit this lifestyle change, permanently. Has my grocery shopping list changed? Absolutely! Am I spending more money??? Ummm… probably not. My swaps have changed in the nature of what stays in my pantry and refrigerator, AND some things just aren’t worth the purchase anymore!

Have I actually shed a few pounds??? Possibly, but my overall activity level has dropped significantly due to surgery recovery, sickness, and now radiation treatments. My goal is to get back to “normal-ish” soon! Allowing my body to rest and recover has been a process for me, adjusting my cancer mindset.

Chicken tortilla soup loaded with beans has been a great addition to post radiation meals… during radiation, boosting protein intake is necessary

Living through Cancer has been a definite challenge. Taking things one day at a time, navigating through a myriad of research, eating with simple swaps, constant appointments, recovery, rest, and ultimately, the HOPE of NED (no evidence of disease).

HOPE… a simple reminder as I walk into the cancer center each visit 💕

Hope and faith is definitely important in the cancer journey mindset. Here’s something to consider as someone who has never been through the cancer journey and for the overall cancer mindset… Just because active cancer treatment ends (surgery, constant appointments, scans, chemotherapy, radiation) doesn’t mean the fight is over. The cancer fight never truly ends for a cancer patient/survivor.

For those who have not been diagnosed or had a family member who faced cancer, here’s something worth mentioning… Often times cancer patients are faced with taking medications for several years following the active treatment schedule (ie: surgery, radiation, chemotherapy) AND The Appointments still occur (which maybe less frequent), bloodwork, and scans are required years afterward. Cancer is always in the rear view mirror of your life as a cancer survivor. It’s just a different phase of the cancer journey.

Pink morning skies are extra special this March as I have begun Radiation Treatments

This is also my story. I will be on estrogen suppressant medication for 5 years after radiation therapy is completed this month. The side effects of these medications necessitates a healthy lifestyle. Using the dietary simple swaps, physical activity, and much more will be a long term lifestyle change not only for medication necessities, but in hopes to prevent a cancer reoccurrence.

Core Power protein shakes has been a great find!!! These a good boost when needed.

My ultimate hope for you is that YOU can use these simple switches and include them in your daily routine. I simply started out last November initially with increasing my own mindful awareness of my fruit and vegetable consumption… the first swap and step… slowly adding more swaps over the last 4 months. You too can do this for better health if that’s a goal for yourself and your family in 2026, beginning with one simple swap.

Salad loaded with spinach, red cabbage, broccoli, carrots and cauliflower, simple switch for my cancer healing journey

**Thank you for your continued prayers and please pray for other cancer patients who are walking this journey that you may not be aware of.**

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Cancer Journal #3… A Unique Path to Healing

February 5, 2026 hardwarelifewife 1 Comment

“*Surrender your path, don’t worry about your timing or speed. Walk with joy.”*

Have you been following the Walk of Peace by the Monks? I actually didn’t know about this event until they were walking through Georgia several weeks ago. Richard was talking about this unique event one night a dinner. My interest was peaked and I began following their journey from that point forward. It has been an amazing experience to watch them walk this path, enduring all types of weather conditions from Texas to Washington DC, their final destination.

*Walk for Peace… a journey rooted in kindness, creating awareness of inner peace, and mindfulness*

My path to healing from this cancer feels like a similar journey. I may not be literally walking 2,300 miles, but I’m still moving forward, one day at a time with a specific goal in mind, my return to good health.

“*Sometimes the path isn’t always easy”*

What I have learned thus far is each person’s path to healing from cancer is uniquely different. Breast Cancer isn’t a “cookie cutter” disease.

Even though you may have had the same type of breast cancer as someone you know, the details are unique to you… such as… the size of the tumor, whether cancer was present in lymph nodes, estrogen positive tumor, was the tumor fast growing… and I could go on… but you get the gist. It’s a lot!

“Comparison is the thief of Joy”… so true!!! Your cancer plan of treatment will be unique to your cancer diagnosis and it’s difficult to compare it with anyone else’s journey. Similarities are common, but your path is uniquely shaped by your cancer and your mindset.

***These were my surgery socks… the nurses loved them. Thanks Barb*** 💕

I lost a friend to cancer this past week. She had a different diagnosis from me, and her battle with breast cancer was inspiring. Laura was a true warrior. Laura always had a kick this cancer attitude. When she started her chemotherapy treatment, she wore bright, colorful socks to “sock it to cancer”. She was a tremendous advocate to me when I began having concerns and questions about my micro-cysts in 2020. I felt better after talking to her as I began the navigating the path forward.

*“Be bold enough to choose your own path and strong enough to follow it.”*

I was upset to learn recently that Laura had relapsed, and her time was growing short. As word of her passing came to light, I was deeply saddened. Laura led with a warm beaming smile always, and her beautiful soul matched her life.

I was also trying to wrap my mind on potential future cancer relapses, and how to move forward. For sure, the ONE thing that all cancer patients experience, in their journey that isn’t unique… the fear of reoccurrence. Will it happen to me? That reality of cancer is often hard. Yet, I wanted to recognize Laura’s fight. I felt led to carry on Laura’s colorful sock tradition, one day at a time.

*Sock it to Breast Cancer… an easy way to show support to a family member or anyone you might know who is fighting cancer , a daily reminder to say a prayer for them as you get dressed each day.*

I’m currently at a in-between stage… recovering from surgery and waiting for completion of healing before next steps happen. My surgery went well, no cancer in lymph nodes, all margins were clear after the cancer tumor was removed. I have met again with my medical oncologist and we are discussing medications moving forward AND, I’m currently waiting to begin radiation. I have an appointment this week to meet yet another doctor, my radiation oncologist.

Several people have approached me saying how much they appreciated my cancer blog posts and my bold choice to write about it. My decision to write about my cancer journey is not based on gaining support of others but the opposite, as a way to offer support to those who might need it… if Cancer finds them or a family member. Navigating the Cancer pathway isn’t always easy.

*Just like a snow covered road, you need a good navigator and 4×4! Thankful for my family, friends and medical professionals who are helping me navigate this cancer.*

AND I have questions… lots of them!!! The internet and social media is a total vacuum of information, some good, some information probably not very useful… luckily, I have amazing doctors who can advise and guide me and who take TIME to answer my questions in compassionate manner.

*The path back to Wilkes from Winston Salem is often a reminder of the beauty of our home. Thankful for the Mountains that welcome us back home each trip. A small blessing in my cancer journey.*

After cancer surgery, it might be easy to assume, the cancer is gone! Get your life back to normal, and just eat what you want! But, surgery completion is just a starting point on my cancer journey. Often Breast cancer patients will need either radiation or chemotherapy. Radiation therapy can capture any remaining microscopic cancer cells that are present unseen by the human eye. Chemotherapy is a much more invasive to the body systems, for those who have a higher stage or risk of cancer returning.

My Oncotype score was on the lower end, so Chemotherapy was not needed! Thankful 💕

As I have been in this “in-between stage”, I have intentionally chosen to focus on what my body now has become accustomed to, eating more Whole Foods… Maximizing my potential for success in this fight. Why did I choose this??? Less processed foods and added chemicals in my diet is a good thing to reduce any future cancer risk and this will help me maintain a healthier lifestyle overall. We will all benefit from this simple shopping adjustment in my family.

In my “internet vacuum of research”, reading my manual from the Cancer Center, talking with other cancer survivors, and I have even participated in discussions with a cancer dietitian! I have learned that what you eat is just as important as exercise, and any medications you may take. All of these factors work together to defeat the cancer. Maximize!

*Hydration is key… the choice to drink Lemon water all day, not only for Cancer recovery, but I also had a kidney stone flair in the midst of my cancer diagnosis. That was not fun!!!*

With this Whole Foods approach, I’m concentrating on eating healthy proteins 90grams… limiting sugars 25g, using fruit as a natural source of sugars that my body needs, fiber 25g(beans, whole grains, natural fruits/vegetables) and of course hydration is key!!

*We switched milk brands prior to my cancer diagnosis, glad we did that! I can grab protein in this milk!!! And you can make a great homemade hot chocolate with this milk brand too!*

Protein Hot Chocolate 2 servings: 2 cups Fairlife milk, 2 T cocoa, 2T Monk fruit, dash of vanilla, 1/4 c chocolate chips, and cinnamon for extra cancer fighting power. Warm milk over low heat, add cocoa, monk fruit, stir well. Once well incorporated, add chocolate chips to melt, dash of vanilla flavoring, and dash of cinnamon. Stir well until chocolate is dissolved and milk is warm. Enjoy!

In my mind, being intentional about what I put on my plate each day or even what I’m snacking on can make a world of difference in my recovery. So, what IF I decided to go back to “my old normal” routines, ways of eating, could that spur a cancer reoccurrence?? Maybe, maybe not… but why take that risk? Healthier habits can help my body in other areas as I move into the next portion of my path, Radiation and Estrogen suppression medications.

*My mom found this low sugar, high protein yogurt for me over Thanksgiving… I absolutely love this brand!!! Tried a few others but this one is my favorite.. Aldi brand by the way*

When two trees are joined together like this one pictured below, it’s called inosculation. The trees themselves… trunks, roots and branches physically morph into one. The location of the where they connect can be different. My photo capture shows them morphing at the base. Inosculation happens when the friction between two trees causes the outer bark of each tree to scrape off at the point of contact… creating an opening to connect together .

This is where I’m at on my cancer journey. My old life is merging into one with my cancer, the friction, sharing it as one. Merged together forever, creating a new path.

*Inosculation at the base… marriage of two trees… Creating a Union of the Path*

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Rooted in Wilkes

July 14, 2024 hardwarelifewife 1 Comment

Last Spring I was basking in the sunshine, kneeling in my front flower garden, while planting one of my favorite “memory flowers”, a little white geranium. I should provide a bit of background on a “memory flower” for those who are new to my blog. A “memory flower” is a specific flower or plant that I have associated with special family members/friend that either gifted the plant to me OR I have sweet memories associated with the flower. My personal connections to flowers and what I plant in my garden is deeply rooted… linked to my personal life experiences and memories of those who I love and those who are no longer with us.

Read more about Flower Memories in the blog post: Flower Power

As I carefully took that “memory flower” out of the small, green container and placed it into my hand, I realized the root system of the tiny, white geranium was extremely shallow and weak. I began to cringe. My first thought was that the white geranium wouldn’t make it.

White geraniums are a staple in my containers every year. This planter in my garden has a nice healthy mix of summer annuals

After lots of TLC, it did survive the long, hot summer season but it didn’t thrive like some of my other plants that had a stronger established root systems when they were originally planted.

This shallow planting experience began an instant stream of thoughts about, “Being Well Rooted”. How would that translate into my understanding of my own life experiences?

Beginning with the concept in mind, establishing a good root system offering a deeper and stronger bond to the plant, conveying nourishment to all the branches…This began a spiral of thoughts. What roots have I established in my life? Am I well rooted in Wilkes?

*All images used in this blog post are courtesy of our beautiful Wilkes County. I hope you find a few familiar places or maybe even some new places to explore.*

Life is different here from anywhere else in the world. The pace of living is slower. It’s a great place to live and raise a family. Wilkes is simply HOME. My Roots are here. That part was easy to discern.

This blog post was created out of my life experiences and memories… remembering and honoring those who helped me to establish and discover my Roots and in good time, cultivated my unique story.

A Bit of Personal Perspective: A Foundation of Memories

I grew up in Wilkes County, surrounded by the beautiful, majestic mountains as our daily view looming at our back door step. It was the perfect blue mountain scenery that surrounded me and greeted me, and hugged me from the distance. As a rambling traveler moving away from and returning to our county borders, a definite welcome sight, the Blue Ridge in the distance, whispering, “Welcome HOME”.

I spent my “kid summers” wading in the creek that was located in the woods behind my house. No shoes were ever needed on a hot summer day. Running in the grass, barefoot, was the order of the day. As a kid, summer days seemed endless… these days were marked with sweet memories. From eating a watermelon wedge, soaking up the last bite of summertime sweet goodness to a full on chase and catch of lightning bugs, all were definite summer staples. I can remember being absolutely giddy with excitement about the opportunity to put those little, bright yellow bugs into a mason jar and watch them blink away in the dusk of a humid summer evening. Then finally, reluctantly, releasing them from the jar before heading inside before my nightly slumber ensued. Summers were filled with the beauty of the natural world that surrounded me in Wilkes. Wonderful childhood memories marked by the love of family and HOME.

Growing into My Roots

Eventually, I grew up and went away to college and enjoyed the experience that a larger city offered. I came HOME to Wilkes often during those college years to visit my family. Little did I know, ultimately, I had unlocked my ROOTS. My foundation was strong and I was slowly beginning to find my center.

Each return trip back HOME was so similar… marked by the familiar smells of freshly cut grass, and sometimes, with the pungent smell of manure which signaled, the hard work of local farmers. The sights of rolled hay fields, and corn fields in full view abound in my memories.

The sounds of nature … birds singing cheerfully, and crickets chirping their solitary song each evening at dusk. You could also listen to the church bells ringing in the distance calling out to its members singing a soulful little tune on Sunday mornings. The sounds that are mostly removed from the ears…heavy traffic, sirens, and other street noise that tends to dominate city life.

And if you could pause long enough and listen… the rambling sound of race cars in the distance could be heard certain times of the year. You just know, if you live in Wilkes, when to expect and hear the humming sounds of race cars churning around the race track. I could always hear the roar and hum of race cars rumbling through the woods when the wind carried just perfectly from my childhood home.

Thankful to see North Wilkesboro Speedway open again!

And lastly, the pinnacle view, that I always took for granted, as a young person, the mountains in the distance, all signaled that I was HOME. Those beautiful mountains, served as a big hug from my surroundings here in Wilkes County, HOME. All familiar, and part of my heart and soul from my own life experiences. Memories branching out becoming my ROOTS.

A view from my front yard… we are blessed to have Mountain View’s everywhere

Finding Support and Growth

After College Graduation, I found myself returning HOME again, looking to fully take up ROOTS as an educator in my community where I grew up. Those formative years provided me with a sense of belonging to a welcoming community, where Southern hospitality still exists and I’m grateful that we live in such a friendly place.

I found work and I began to prepare for the future. I worked in middle school education for over 25 years before retirement. I enjoyed teaching. What I discovered in my educational years, Creativity was at the utmost importance as I planned my lessons to make middle schoolers feel more engaged with their learning, but, it still had to be challenging. Creativity was a central element that has become part of my internal root system.

Sometimes we realize that change is happening, and I knew it was time to concentrate on my ROOTS again. People can be easily replaced at work with another person, but you can’t be replaced at home. HOME and FAMILY an essential part of my daily being, deeply rooting me back to where I needed to be, HOME.

Initially, my vision of work after retirement was not what I anticipated. The ultimate reality that happened… Staffing changes, COVID, and other factors have put me in the forefront along the side of my faithful husband and partner who definitely welcomed me with open arms. We are now ROOTED in the hardware industry that had such strong roots and ties within our local community.

Branching Out

When retirement came, it was a bit a relief. I was utterly exhausted. I had been as they say, “burning the candle at both ends”. I had been working as a full time Mom, as an educator, working as a part-time business owner for our hardware store, blogging, and lastly, beginning to care for my aging grandparents. My life was extremely full.

We have found a rhythm at work inside our “old school hardware store” and have launched headlong into helping our community as we can through our business ownership in Downtown North Wilkesboro.

In the last few years, Richard and I have worked alongside other Downtown Merchants, to form The Downtown North Wilkesboro Merchants Association, and we both actively participate in this group. You may recognize this group, as we have worked to create, The Spooktacular Festival for our community when the Greenway Trail of Treats was cancelled a few years ago.

The Hardware Life: A Life Lesson in Grafting

Wilkes County hosts a Peach Festival in July and Apple Festival in October, so the tradition of farming is central in our community. Fruit farmers often graft their fruit trees to create a new variety. The act of grafting… taking one plant cutting and merging with another, creating a unique union and the growth of a new species.

One of the quickest ways to send information out to our hardware store customer base was using the different creative tools that social media platforms offered. I literally had to dig deep into these tools and just go for it. Over the last 9 years, we have slowly grown a loyal audience on Facebook and Instagram, growing and expanding our hardware community. We have been able to share our product offerings, and our staff personal skill sets that make our hardware store a unique shopping experience for our customers.

My blog has continued to grow since I began, The Hardware Life Wife in 2018. As a novice writer, the blog pieces were fairly short and without pictures. I have learned more about the “how to blog process” as I have had the time. Initially, I honestly couldn’t devote much time to it. It was mostly a “summertime project” and I worked on blog posts between planning school lessons while I was still teaching full time. My blog has been a wonderful ROOTED creative outlet for me to share with others.

After a few years of consistent blogging, it became a goal of mine to add as many authentic pictures as I could to help break up the longer content pieces that I was now writing. Photographs provide a visual experience for the reader, adding an extra dimension, or as I could say “branch” to the story that is needed.

Drawing upon my experience as an educator, I knew that I must give reluctant readers a reason to engage with my blog, as my writing pieces grew into more lengthy content. Another overall goal was to increase my blog readership.

Using these new goals and being ROOTED in educational experience, I decided to use “Chunking”. Chunking is breaking content down into smaller sections. I could use photographic images to further break down the information which would help the reader to stay focused on the writing content and the images adding to the overall narrative. Grafting in action!

The use of stock images was not my intention, so I opted to insert my personal images into each blog post where I could create a more vivid reading experience for my readers.

Surprisingly, my personal photos were well received. I was stunned. This new finding was giving me the confidence and the opportunity to share more of my personal photography for which, I’m thankful and extremely grateful. I have been able to “branch out” and graft my core ROOTS into new areas of creativity and it has been an amazing journey!

Slowly, my heart has been wrapped around creating more beautiful images to share with my readers. My love of photography has grown and developed over the last few years. Seeking my ROOTS of creativity… ROOTED in my heart, showcasing everyday life in Wilkes County as I see it through my life lens using my camera, Rooted In Wilkes. All of the images you see today are all my own, with the exception of the photo of myself and Richard. I hope that you find these pictures add to the story.

Closing Thoughts: My ROOTED Experience

I must admit that one does not have to be a native of Wilkes to enjoy the beauty our area. The sights, sounds, and scenery of our greater community where I grew up and discovered my ROOTS. As I age, my appreciation of the beauty of my surroundings has grown. Anyone can Experience life in Wilkes if you are willing to take a moment to “branch out” and look for new opportunities and places in your nearby surroundings. Grafting opportunities are endless. Change is constant. So no matter wherever you find yourself, share your roots/story with others.

*All images used in this blog post are courtesy of our beautiful Wilkes County. I hope you found a few familiar places or maybe even some new places to explore.*

The beauty of Wilkes is all encompassing and deeply rooted in my life and for that, I’m grateful. I encourage you to go ahead and make some deep roots here. I found HOME, multiple opportunities to grow into my ROOTS, expanding my branches of creativity and learning, and how to GRAFT when needed. My ROOTS have allowed me to stop and slow down to appreciate the small things in this world, which ultimately are the BIG things in life. I think you will be glad that you took time to be Rooted in Wilkes.

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