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Cancer Journal #7- The Transformative Power of Grace and Making Lemonade

May 17, 2026 hardwarelifewife Leave a comment

In my previous career, I was a Middle School Educator. Often times Middle School scheduling created groups of students who pretty much stayed together for most of the day. After all of that togetherness, day after day… and months … sometimes the tensions between students would become apparent.

One specific group that I taught in my last few years of teaching, it was evident they were wearing on each other’s nerves.

So, one afternoon, we had a quick conversation or a “pep talk” about offering each other Grace and showing a bit more patience with each other. I quickly moved onto the lesson for that day and didn’t think much about it.

I had no idea that the talk about Grace had really stuck with them until a few days later.

This same group of students was beginning to line up in the hallway. Our destination was the lunchroom. A sweet middle school girl quickly raised her hand as we were beginning our departure down the hallway.

I stopped the group to see what she needed. She then said, “I need some help with Grace this afternoon. I’ve tried to get these two boys to quit goofing around and they aren’t listening. Can you take over please Mrs. Searcy? I used up all my Grace that I have left”.

**Grace**: *Finding beauty in the ordinary days*

I was stunned. The Grace conversation had stuck with that group of impressionable young middle schoolers. Everyone giggled at the two mischievous boys who were now in my charge, quickly falling into line like they should. They totally understood what giving each other Grace meant, and had been actively practicing it.

That’s where I find myself recently in recovery mode of my Cancer Journey, Practicing Grace. I have come to realize that Cancer recovery isn’t linear, each day is uniquely different. Patience is key.

Thinking about Grace in this context of cancer recovery offers me the opportunity to begin again after the rougher health days. Grace isn’t perfection. Grace is the gateway…to allow the moments of peace to flow when times are tough, when I’m feeling exhausted, and noting the same aches and pains everyday. Grace has given me the quiet power to move through my Cancer recovery.

Grace…tempered with dignity and compassion. Grace… A new level of understanding and empathy as an individual…as others face a new Cancer Diagnosis or currently going through treatment. I totally get it, we all need a bit of Grace to make it through.

*In a field of pink and yellow… spot the red… over 2 million people will be diagnosed with cancer this year.*

Grace … allowing patience with my healing. Grace…always teaching me what cancer recovery is like.

What I have learned???

1. Cancer surgery and treatments take a tremendous toll on the body. The interconnectedness of body systems is truly revealing in the face of cancer.

2. Each person’s path with cancer is different, one common thread… the drained exhaustion/fatigue. This feeling exists for all cancer survivors even after a good nights rest.

3. Cancer recovery has been a roller coaster ride of sorts over the last 6 months with physical symptoms that don’t seem to easily disappear. Cancer wrecks your immune system and disrupts your body chemistry. I’ve literally been playing “wack a mole” since my cancer diagnosis. Here’s a quick rundown of my last few months…

Initial mammogram results showed additional testing needed… at the same time I was diagnosed with a Bone spur on my shoulder in November 2025
Official Cancer diagnosis in early December 2025
Unreal Hot flashes… Since my breast cancer was estrogen positive, I needed to discontinue my medication that had kept the hot flashes at bay for the last several years. These hot flashes have intensified to the point where my sleep is continuously disrupted significantly…(see Menopause paragraph below) November 2025.
Kidney stones December 2025
Cancer Surgery and recovery January-February 2026
My first battle with Covid- February 2026
Radiation- March 2026
Began Estrogen Suppression meds for 5 years-March 2026
Side effects noted from new medication (bone and joint pain) making me feel like I’m experiencing the flu all the time, fatigue, hot flashes that intensified even more 😬. March 2026
Bone Spur on heel April 2026
Began the process of working with the Cancer Integrative Medicine to find alternatives for restoration of sleep, hot flashes etc hopeful to find relief of side effects from new medication- April 2026
UTI due to lack of estrogen from new meds, Bacterial infection… working with my care team currently to navigate this new issue known as GSM. April 2026
Fatigue… Cancer wipes out your energy. Even after Cancer Treatment, the fatigue lingers. Cancer treatment destroys the cancer cells but in the process it can harm good cells. Cells are rebuilding themselves and the energy reserves wanes during that rebuilding process, even with good restorative sleep. I have found that fatigue can onset suddenly or it can be a daily problem. (Ongoing)

*Family history of cancer is important to know, the more you know about your family medical history, the better care you can receive from your medical provider*, *especially if you have family members with a cancer history*

I’m sharing these things with y’all NOT to try to create sympathy, but to bring a bit of awareness of how integrated our body systems are. My cancer diagnosis/recovery has amplified some of these issues.

*The most common cancers that are diagnosed: breast, colon, prostate, lung. Screenings are crucial for all*

Cancer Recovery is an ongoing process. As previously mentioned, Cancer can create a literal physical break down of body systems… ultimately impacting how you feel, think, and react.

If you know people who are currently experiencing cancer, in the recovery phase, or living life beyond cancer, extend Grace.

Just asking them something like “How are you feeling today” or “I’m here, I’m listening” can go a long way.

Life is truly distinctly different after Cancer. The physical body is different. As a result, the changes I’m making after Cancer are life altering. My Dietary changes have been significant, with a key focus on good protein, fiber, and less sugar. I’m also trying to be mindful of daily movement, even if it just moving inside doing daily chores on the days that fatigue hits hard.

*Grocery shopping is forever changed! Shopping the outside perimeter of the grocery store is common practice for me now.*

Breast Cancer recovery is messy as most cancer recovery tends to be. Menopause for most women occurs naturally. In that natural menopause state, your body slowly has time to adjust the amount of estrogen that is decreasing in your body systems.

*When diagnosed at an early, localized stage of breast cancer… before spreading, the 5-year relative survival rate is 98-99%.*

But with estrogen suppression medication, (which is often used to help prevent a reoccurrence after an estrogen positive tumor), menopause crashes hard in your body systems.

This crash is happening immediately without that natural process of losing estrogen slowly. With the sudden crash, it wreaks havoc in all sorts of ways upon the body systems. The typical side effects of Menopause, hit more like a boulder crashing… and is much more intense.

Allowing Grace to live within me helps me not only in cancer recovery, but gives me the opportunity to make adjustments as needed, doing what I can physically do from day to day after experiencing such a crash.

*How fitting… Women’s Health Week May 10-16, beginning on a day we celebrate Mother’s Day!*

Scrolling on Pinterest the other day I came across a term that describes my cancer journey perfectly…Lemonading. What happens when life hands you lemons???? You make Lemonade! Using that theory, you have 🍋 lemons… find the positivity, and make the lemonade!

It is estimated that men and women who have experienced hormone based cancers or treatment therapies are 25-50% more likely to discontinue treatment based on the difficulty of side effects these cause.

Lemonading in my daily life has allowed me to reflect and re-evaluate what is really important and my goals are shifting and changing to some degree.

Life Lemonading Lately:

1. My day tends to start a bit more slowly. This allows time to ease into the day instead of worrying about a specific time oriented schedule.

2. Spring has arrived… gardening has been a great restorative practice for me.

*Gardening provides a great opportunity for movement and in Blue Zones research, a great longevity practice*

3. Working less hours at the hardware store… I’m thankful that we have an AMAZING staff who are there each day! This has allowed me the time to flex my schedule around how I’m feeling, allowing myself time to rest and recover.

4. I’m working towards finding solutions to the side effects of estrogen suppression meds… body aches, fatigue, intense hot flashes, by using resources from the Integrative Cancer Center in Winston Salem.

5. I now have a greater focus on restorative sleep. During our sleep cycle, our body repairs and rejuvenates itself. It’s a necessity and I’m definitely trying to adapt to a new sleep schedule and recognizing my body signals to create a more restful atmosphere for myself. Acupuncture has been a huge help in restoring my sleep and managing symptoms.

6. Continuing to explore creative outlets… it really does not matter what you do, but do something you enjoy!!! Solving puzzles,playing board games, writing, creating art, photography, gardening, pottery, or even cooking (testing new healthy recipes). Maintaining my creative outlets has helped me to stay connected with others and adds to my overall wellbeing.

*Pottery is one of my favorite creative outlets*

7. Giving back to the Cancer Community… I recently participated in the American Cancer Society Relay for Life. My team was able to raise over $2,100 to help cancer patients.

*Relay For Life funds not only cancer research, but provides needed support to cancer patients*

Lemonading through this cancer recovery process has become a new normal for me. A definite transformative process.. centering around the power of Grace. This simple yet profound concept can guide us through the toughest days, fostering empathy and understanding.

*Breast cancer is one of the most common cancers among women, followed by skin cancer in second place*

I’ll leave y’all today with the chorus of one of my favorite new songs Ride, Ride, Ride by Luke Bryan and George Birge which fits life perfectly right now.

“Ride, ride, ride,
When the clouds rollin’ in ’til the sun’s back again

*Grace and Lemonading Life brings the sun closer to me during hard recovery days*

And you’ll find, find, find
That what you’re made of is barbed wire tough,

Stare down the storm, you bring on the rain

Life will throw you off boy, but saddle up anyway
And ride, ride, ride
Ride, ride, ride”.

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Yard Personality

May 7, 2026 hardwarelifewife Leave a comment

From the farm to the classic Southern porch, outdoor spaces have always been a source of comfort and connection. Whether it’s a grandparent’s porch or a friend’s carport, these outdoor spaces offer a perfect blend of all things nature and relaxation. All the while, these outdoor areas reveal a sense of personal warmth permeating from the home. Read on and learn more about creating your own unique Yard Personality.

I can remember going to visit my Grandparents house which we called “the farm”. As young kids we had a large open space to run and play outside. Often as you would drive up to the farm, you could find my Grandma and Grandpa Adams outside on the porch or they would be sitting under a shade tree in lawn chairs.

*Old Beautiful trees dotted my Grandparents landscape at the farm as a young kid*

The cousins group had loads of fun playing on the farm. We had a large open space to run and play outside. Thankfully, we were always within earshot and eyesight of the adults who were visiting outside. A small creek ran behind the house and we cousins would end up there in our wanderings and play.

I recently visited a friend. We were sitting outside on her carport. She has created a sweet, little spot to retreat to… complete with an outdoor rug, comfortable, cushioned chairs, music playing, and yes, a ceiling fan just to name a few amenities. The natural breeze flowing through the porch made it a perfect spot to spend a warm afternoon in conversation with good friends.

These family memories coupled with my recent visit to my friends house, got me to thinking about how people use or don’t use their space/ yard and how “individual personality” can impact outdoor spaces and its uses.

*Living on a Farm… yard personality of its own*

Growing up and living in the South, I would like to note that probably one of the most common outdoor spaces that people use are porches… front/back porch, or maybe even a screened in porch.

**Porches: a place where stories are told and memories are made** …This long, large porch located in Valle Crucis has been a favorite of ours *for many years*

The PORCH… where HOME meets the outside world. A porch allows us to connect with the exterior world, all the while, enjoying the creature comforts of being HOME.

These outdoor “rooms” are often used as a gathering place or even as a place of retreat. On a Southern porch, you can definitely “sit a spell”… one can watch traffic go by, swing, rock the day away in your favorite chair, view the stars at night, or simply listen to the sounds of nature.

Within the confines of a porch outdoor space, one can let the worries of the day wash away. Complete with and no phones or technology. Add in a cold beverage in hand, and the perfect porch sitting weather is upon us, minus the pollen!!

*New Rocking Chairs from WCH are a perfect way to spend a afternoon relaxing on a porch or deck*

As we sometimes do, Richard and I will go for a drive on a sunny afternoon. I love to “window watch” from the vehicle window as we make our way down the country roads.

Those Sunday afternoon adventures make me realize that Summertime is a wonderful time to notice the little bits and pieces of Yard Personality from the exterior and my car window…You know it when you see it as we make the “drive by”. Kids in the yard playing games, or even noting an interest in gardening with flowers abounding from the yard. Then I spot Rocking Chairs on the front porch as we pass by. The visible story of the homeowners unraveling right in front of your eyes… neatly kept lawn and shrubs, and orderly gardens. Or maybe just the opposite, flowing gardens that seamlessly wander from one area to another, featuring an old chair, chipping paint holding a garden treasure, the grass waiting to be mowed. Both of these scenarios create a sense of order and peace for each homeowner because that’s exactly what they wanted. Marked distinct features of personality that dominate the Yard…just from a quick glance as we drive past.

This chippy chair holds a strawberry plant on my back porch.

Have you ever thought about your distinct yard personality??? I haven’t ever given this topic much consideration, until recently. Is this really a legitimate topic… Absolutely!!!

First let’s define the term “YARD”. According to our purposes of this topic… a YARD is the entire surrounding area around the house, including the grass, pavement, porches, other outdoor spaces, and includes dedicated gardens.

*Walkways are an important part of Yard Personalization, visually what is seen as you approach the front door? Is it welcoming to visitors?*

In essence, the YARD is ALL useable outdoor space. Looking at the term YARD, the opposite is true in the United Kingdom. The garden IS the whole. Yard would not be the proper terminology.

*Gardens are the baseline of the individualized personality in the UK, it’s nice to include the whole perimeter of your usable area in **Yard Personalization** here in the US*

Processing this new concept of Yard Personality, I think it’s crucial to understand that People will prioritize their needs and wants into how they want to use their yard based upon what it’s important to them. Of course, often budget is a factor… but the use of good ol’ elbow grease, sweat equity and repurposing materials can make a huge impact!

After a quick visit at my friend’s house, I concluded that she has beautifully created a place to relax and uses that space as a place to retreat after a long day at work.

According to a quick Google search, most people fall into a few key categories when it comes to YARD PERSONALITY. I was extremely curious to see where I would fall… or not be found.🧐 Would my style potentially overlap with more than one???

*This sweet little stained glass frog would look great in any outdoor space.*

My curiosity got the best of me and I kept diving into it. Here’s my modified list to keep it simple and easier for writing purposes.

Yard Personalities:

1. The Lawn Expert… these individuals create a carefully designed and manicured/maintained yard. Gardens are well kept or maybe not present because the emphasis is literally on the beautiful the yard itself.

*The Gardens pictured here at Tryon Palace are a perfect example of the “Expert”*

2. The Lover of Nature… The Yard and Gardens meandering about, flowing with a variety of colors and styles of flowers. Areas are designed in the yard to attract various species of wildlife(hummingbirds, birds, butterflies, etc) and you may find seating areas present to enjoy the fruits of their labor throughout the entire yard.

*Planting to attract wide variety of bees, butterflies, etc*

*Bird houses and feeders in all shapes and sizes available at WCH*

3. The Entertainer…This individual may have a Grilling area is set up to entertain and to cook up a great meal, a festive outdoor table set to welcome friends and family, maybe a fire pit to welcome guests, lawn games, swimming pool, you name it, the Entertainer will have it!

*BBQ sauces, rubs, Traeger pellets, and grill accessories all available at WCH for the summer entertainer*

4. The Kid and/or Pet Friendly Yard… Basketball, volleyball, soccer goals set up in yard, or swimming pool visible…riding toys scattering along the driveway or the yard, outdoor play areas created for the kids, or maybe even a tree house. Backyard fences keep the kids and pets within view and allow them to play safely.

*Pool water testing and chemicals are available for purchase at WCH all summer long for family fun😎*

This is just a small sample of brainstorming that I did to imagine these different types of Yard Personalities. I feel sure that this is only scratching the surface!

My mind then wandered back to my own to Spring “to do list” as I began refining and defining my Yard Personality. 🧐. What area(s) did I want to focus upon in my own YARD???? After some thought, I decided our back porch needed a bit of TLC.

*A good back porch cleaning was necessary… we have some great items at WCH for outdoor clean up*

So I’ll pose the same questions to you. Did you find a Yard Personality that you strongly identified with??? Is your yard in shape for the upcoming Spring and Summer season??? 🧐🧐🧐

*These handmade wind chimes would make a great addition to any yard or garden*

Currently, I’m slowly trying to make a few projects a reality and keeping within budget using objects that I already have… finding a new way to repurpose them, and adding in color/texture as I can. I’ve slowly been working on my back porch area over the last few weeks adding a few things to make it more comfortable for us to use on a regular basis in hopes that it will become a welcoming space for all of us as well as our guests.

Work in progress from my back porch, flowers still yet to be planted, repurposing my strawberry planter as a quick side table… hanging baskets and crates to warm up the siding using vinyl siding clips, very easy project!!!

Another thing worth mentioning, a portion of Yard Personality can be attributed to how you use found objects or even Art in your space.

*These unique outdoor lanterns add a nice touch of Art and beauty to your existing landscape*

Art is often a form of creative expression and imagination which can be found in a visual form. It could be the appearance of hand created objects, like bird houses, or feeders, or the appearance of a symphony of vibrant colors from the garden, or Yard Art.

*These PVC bird houses found at WCH are exceptional!!! Long lasting and made in NC!!!*

The use of Art can evolve with your imagination and creativity all the while, looking at needs and wants within a given outdoor space… ultimately bringing vibrancy to your Yard.

Let your imagination and creative energy shine this year! Wilkes County Hardware is here to support your new found passion and dedication to creating and developing your own unique Yard Personality, making home a true place of retreat and comfort.

*Store Hours: Monday through Friday 8am-6pm , Saturday 9am-3pm*

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Cancer Journal #6…Tackling The Colossal Elephant, Cancer

March 31, 2026 hardwarelifewife Leave a comment

A new ornament on my Christmas tree this past year… full of symbolism and inspiration for my cancer journey

The African Male Elephant can weigh up to 14,000 pounds, making it the largest of all land animals! A female elephant weight is a bit smaller, coming in at about 6,000 to 8,000 pounds on average. Regardless of the weight, the elephant is a huge animal! Experiencing Cancer can be a heavy experience similar to the weight of an elephant.

Receiving a cancer diagnosis and embarking on a health journey like facing cancer is similar to tackling a colossal elephant. The old joke goes “how do you eat an elephant??? One bite at a time … What really does this old phrase really indicate??? Navigating the cancer experience requires bite-sized steps, breaking it down into manageable parts allowing progress, much like the elephant metaphor suggests… not eating the elephant itself.

Experiencing Cancer is the very similar to eating an elephant…You tackle it one day at a time. Focusing your energy on the most pressing task at hand, learning as you go through it… based upon my own personal experience. The “Cancer Elephant” is a massive task to tackle.

These cute little elephant watering cans are found at WCH

What’s it like eating that “cancer elephant” one bite at a time??? 🐘🐘Here’s a quick look at my personal experience with my “cancer elephant”… one day at a time.

–Initial scans and tests to confirm diagnosis (multiple doctor visits/tests)… I think I lost count of the number of trips between home and Winston Salem between early November to March 2026.

–Meeting new oncology doctors… I have a few different ones in my cancer journey… (oncology surgical , medical oncology, radiation oncology)these are the ones I have met so far in my own cancer journey. After I completed radiation treatments, I will continue to see my medical oncology doctor moving forward every 3 months. I will also follow up with my surgeon early this summer. Mammogram/ MRI’s will probably alternate every 6 months.

Female elephants-creating a perfect sisterhood, more coming up as you read on

-“Dealing with the Elephant in the Room” Cancer impacts family members. Beginning to tell family and friends about your new cancer diagnosis and trying to help them to understand your ongoing treatment is a necessary step. It is essential to note…Cancer patients move forward from one appointment to the next, often waiting several days or maybe even weeks in between, before the next test or appointment occurs. This waiting process can be unsettling to loved ones who would love to have the full “cancer puzzle” picture in their mind. The waiting game on all the “puzzle pieces” to come together. This is what happens sometimes when multiple tests/scans are needed in order to move forward with confirmation of a cancer diagnosis. It can be taxing for some people who wish to have full “puzzle picture” in mind.

–“Eating the Elephant one bite at a time”…Reading and Researching to learn more about your specific cancer

I have read extensively about Invasive Ductal Carcinoma. And the key dietary changes as a new cancer patient that was highly recommended. Lastly, the lack of estrogen within my own body moving forward (after treatment)… slowly digesting the “cancer elephant chunks” all the while, trying new to apply what I have learned so far. This research process is in my ongoing timeline into the future as my cancer path changes.

–Navigating and using your Cancer Resources Did you know that an elephant can use its own body resources effectively to cool down, swim, eat, and to protect itself?

At my cancer diagnosis appointment, I was given a large amount of information about breast cancer. It was impossible to digest it all at once. But luckily the information came with three nurse navigators to help me. They helped me initially by making key appointments with my new medical oncology team.

I’m still able to use these three ladies as concerns have arisen, and they have help me with those questions like dietary needs, and integrative cancer medicine, and more!

Breast cancer Facebook groups have been helpful to me as people are facing similar challenges with cancer. I have been able to gain a few insights within this group as I have moved through this process.

This was an amazing resource which broke down each part of the cancer treatment process

–“Elephant Diet” …Implementing healthy dietary changes

I have learned that experiencing cancer and cancer treatments changes your bodies metabolic needs. Cancer creates a weakened immune system which in turn, facilitates the need for a healthy diet to strengthen your body. Also, a healthy diet can help in maintaining muscle mass, and help with weight management.

Elephants eat a variety of plants, fruits and twigs to sustain themselves. Now, after my cancer diagnosis, over half of my plate is mostly vegetables! This new change is a continuous marathon, that will hopefully continue for years ahead.

Cancer Journal #5- Simple Switches for a Lifetime of Health

–Grocery Shopping with a true Whole Foods mission …For the last several months, I have been purchasing foods to defeat cancer and reading labels like a cancer superhero! We all three (in our household), flip the nutrition labels over and often discuss the label contents. AND Turning labels over and reading contents in the drug store too! Estrogen can be found in skin care or beauty products.

–Preparing for surgery and surgical recovery … There were a few key essential items that I needed prior to my surgery. Those items were purchased prior to my surgery date in early January. After my cancer surgery, it took about 2 weeks for me to recover. As my energy level increased slowly, the residual pain/pressure subsided from the surgery.

–“Drink like an Elephant”Preparing for Radiation Therapy…My cycle of radiation did not begin until after surgery healing and oncology follow ups had occurred. Once radiation began, I personally experienced tiredness that stayed with me for several days after treatments.

Hydration helped me tremendously as well as walking a bit after radiation treatment each time. I tried to make sure that I had enough electrolytes and non-caffeinated drinks after radiation. Elephants can drink as much as 50 gallons a day of water!!! Wow!!! And we think that 8 full glasses of water a day is a lot!!!

Thankfully, the radiation treatments were spread out over a few weeks. The after effects of radiation treatments can last in body for a few weeks afterward… skin burns, irritation, redness, and tiredness.

A powerful combination… protein shakes, Sugar Free Gatorade, and water before and after radiation treatments

–Allowing time to Rest

Elephants can sleep standing up, but for a more relaxing deeper sleep they need to lie down for a few hours. This means that they are more vulnerable to a predator attack. Often elephants will not lie down unless they feel completely safe within their tribe. Luckily, that herd mentality is a strong force within the pack and active watch is kept to protect those who are sick or need the rest.

I quickly learned that cancer changes your energy levels and energy can fluctuate.. good energy days and bad days are common. I have found out that my body needs more restorative sleep in order to recover over the last few months of experiencing cancer.

My boys are definitely good at reading my body signals as well AND have encouraged me to rest as I need it. I’m definitely going to bed earlier and sleeping a bit later each day. My work schedule isn’t back up to normal yet due to this reason as my energy level fluctuates.

–“Think like an Elephant”Adjusting your mindset

Cancer IS life altering. Life definitely changes after Cancer. Just because active treatment is over doesn’t mean the cancer fight is over. Cancer Reoccurrence is always a concern for every cancer patient and survivor. The doctor appointments maybe fewer in number, but scans, bloodwork, medication can continue for several years afterward.

The Maintenance of a healthy lifestyle can help reduce risk of a cancer reoccurrence. Let’s chunk it down a bit more…

The elephant brain weighs anywhere from 10-12 pounds, and it is the largest brain of any land animal!!! The large temporal lobe of the elephant creates the ability of long term memory. Did you know that Elephants have the ability to remember an interaction with another elephant from years ago and an elephant can remember places they have traveled to before??? The essence… the memory of an elephant is sharp! So there is truth in the statement that an elephant never forgets!!

The same “elephant memory” is carried by a cancer patient /survivor. They never forget what they have been through and don’t wish to face another cancer reoccurrence.

That being said, some cancer survivors will continue to make the healthy lifestyle changes permanent, being a “mindful elephant” with the goal of trying to prevent a reoccurrence or relapse.

– Cancer Life after “active treatment”

What will life look at after surgery, radiation, chemotherapy, when all of the major “cancer stuff” is over???

Life in POST CANCER… I have learned Life after active treatment is an adjustment not only for yourself, but your body. The human body needs time to fully recover and heal from the stress of active cancer treatment. Often times the outside world assumes that life for a cancer survivor goes back to normal, because they no longer see the “visible parts” of the cancer journey after the day to day appointments disappear, and the visible treatments are over.

I understand this fact more intimately now that I’m seeing it for myself as well as my fellow cancer friends who have been through this process before me.

Ultimately changing that perception, along with carrying the weight of the“cancer elephant”, can be heavy. It’s just a bit messy.

For me personally, Post treatment cancer, will be adapting and finding a new “normal” in daily life while, allowing rest as I need it. AND adjusting to a new medication for the next five years.

I’ll write more about this in another blog post as my body has time to adjust and I meet my another new doctor, an Integrated Cancer Health in early April.

–NED Status… NED (No Evidence of Disease) This is a term/status that cancer patients want to ultimately achieve. No evidence of disease (cancer) present on scans, bloodwork or other results. This takes time to achieve and I’m looking forward to reaching this milestone. I’m cautiously optimistic that I’m getting closer to this milestone as surgery went well, and radiation is completely finished. Some people rank cancer survivorship at a 5 year mark after no reoccurrence has materialized.

-“Elephant Emotions” …Connecting with Other Cancer Survivors

Elephants have shown researchers that they have the ability to show a range of emotions like being able to show love, joy, empathy, compassion, and even grief.

In the wild, Female elephants tend to travel together in a herd working together for the good of the female pack. These females will circle around each other in times of distress, giving birth, or offering protection to the sick/weak from nearby predators. Female elephants have a strong bond amongst themselves and they consistently work together to rear the youngest elephants in the herd.

Similarly, Cancer survivors often circle around newly diagnosed cancer patients. These survivors offer kindness, friendship, compassion, and empathy as they begin this highly individualized cancer journey.

I’m very thankful to those cancer survivors who took time to help me navigate this journey. Thank you 💕.

My family members and friends who made me feel wrapped in love and prayers as I have navigated through this journey, I’m so grateful. 💕Thank you. I have appreciated your kind words, cards, messages, and prayers.

The Cancer journey can be uniquely different for each individual… from the type of cancer, how oncology doctors choose to treat it, and many other factors.

I’ll conclude by stating, cancer survivors all have one key thing in common.. tackling the colossal elephant of cancer, one day at a time, offering the gift of Grace to those who need it the most, even themselves. In some form, I think we all can use the elephant analogy and apply it in regard to our own daily lives.

Thank you to all who have helped me tackle this colossal cancer elephant, one day at a time. I’m so grateful for your kindness, love, and circling around me in my continuing cancer journey.

Footnote: I have now finished my active cancer treatment and have begun my medication phase for the next 5 years… medication until 2031! It’s been a bit of an adjustment due to managing some side effects, but I’m hopeful.

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Winter 2025- 2026 Photography

March 19, 2026 hardwarelifewife Leave a comment

Winter of 2025-26 has been very eventful with my official breast cancer diagnosis in early December. Several of my December days were filled with appointments, making many trips to Winston Salem. Then came January… Surgery, recovery, and radiation all during the remaining winter months.

I did find time to snap a few pictures that I loved in this unique season of my life and compiled for a Winter memory album. Photography is an outlet for not only creativity, but the beauty that comes to my mind as I go about my daily activities, essential for hope and a great force in cancer recovery. All of these captures are from right here in our beautiful home, Wilkes County.

I hope you will enjoy these pictures as much as I have in a winter season filled with challenges, hope for healing and yet grace abounded in the winter season of 2025-2026.

I personally enjoy the winter season in regard to photography, the contrast of the starkness of barren trees with the vibrant colors of sunrise. I have organized this blog so that you can witness the evolution of the winter with a glimpse into each month of the winter season.

Thanks for supporting my blog and I deeply appreciate all of your prayers.

**Hope Abounds**…December morning sunrise taken about a week after my cancer diagnosis… I now view the pink skies as a beautiful sign of HOPE.

**Happy New Year!!!** The First 2026 Sunrise

**March Storm Cloud Watch… Black and White**

March is in Bloom… The Hope of Spring

Pup Interlude…

**Our sweet little crew of pups… Cookie, Joy and Jethro (Ro)**

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Laundry Daze… All Washed Up and Drumming Up Excitement for a Job Well Done!

March 17, 2026 hardwarelifewife Leave a comment

Thankfully we have moved beyond the old washing tub but WCH has a variety of sizes if you need one

Doing the laundry can be a thankless task, especially when you are raising a family… leaving you in a bit of a daze. The laundry can pile up quickly if it is neglected. Then the questions begin…MOM… where is my favorite shirt ??? 😳 Have you ever been there?

A new WCH favorite t-shirt, now available in store!

I’m going to “lighten the load” a bit with this childhood memory. The Brady Bunch was an all time favorite show of mine growing up. Bobby, one of the youngest Brady children. In this laundry based episode, Bobby got his suit covered in mud, extremely dirty, and decided to wash it before his mom and Alice got home from shopping hoping to prevent the discussion he didn’t want to have with Mom.

Bobby put the dirty suit into the washing machine, then began to pour in the SAFE washing powder out of the box into the washer. He stopped momentarily, only to pause the flow of washing powders, then decided he needed the whole box😬. He sets the washing machine, and walks away. He cleans himself up, changes clothes, begins his homework. I think you know where this is going laundry wizards.

When Bobby returns downstairs, the laundry suds have already made it to the kitchen door. He enters the laundry room, and the suds are above his head, filling up the entire laundry room. Carol and Alice come home to find Bobby covered in suds!

Pick up your favorite laundry suds at WCH!!

Doing the laundry can be a monotonous task, and sometimes I might even feel like Bobby… washed away with suds. As I’m writing this blog post, I have one load washing, one load waiting in the laundry basket to be folded and put away, and two more loads sorted and waiting to go in after the first load finishes up 🤪.

One might would say the most glorious thing about finishing the laundry is the actual 5 seconds that the laundry baskets are actually empty! I feel that one! Yes, once the day comes to an end, the dirty clothes are back…. Leaving me to feel like surely there HAS to be more people living here that I don’t know about because 3 people surely can’t create this much laundry! 🤨

I will admit that the winter months are harder. The extra layers of clothing needed for warmth can make doing the laundry a more daunting task each week and one might think about “throwing in the towel”. But yes, that would create more laundry, right???

So the Question of the Day, is how to be efficient and productive with this ongoing, never ending cycle of laundry? 🧺 🧺🧺🧺🧺🧺🧺🧺🧺🧺🧺🧺🧺🧺🧺

Do you do laundry everyday or just a few times a week? I have found that if I try to do a bit of laundry each day, my “load” is lighter. If I wait a day or two into the week, the laundry seems to never get finished! Ugh!

Working in Laundry Room: A Few Things To Consider

Set up and have an organized, useable space to work. Don’t forget to Clean your laundry space… wipe down your machines, and laundry baskets! Use Lysol spray to disinfect your fabric baskets. Cleaning the laundry room is more than mopping the floor. The Laundry Room is often a high touch area in your home, just like your kitchen appliances are and frequently used technology items!

Lysol and Clorox wipes are available at WCH, easy cleaning tools for your laundry room tasks

2. Include an area for air drying clothes OR to hang clothes as they come out of dryer. I have found that if I hang up clothes as they come out of the dryer, laundry is a much easier task even if I wait until later to bring them up to the closets. And the side benefit, less ironing!

3. Do you have a system to deal with Lost socks and coins? Some people tuck socks into a mesh bag, others throw the lost socks into a basket to try to reunite them later… coins??? That’s an easy fix, use a mason jar or even a cute little basket holder to catch those odd ball things that fly out of pockets unknown to you!

A cute woven basket can add a pop of color to your laundry space, to catch those coins… available at WCH

4. Keep dryer vents clean and clear… keep a small laundry trash can handy for disposal of laundry lint. Your dryer hose should be cleaned out regularly!

Use a small galvanized metal bucket or a basket to catch those lost socks, or even a small plastic bucket… easy to carry around and doesn’t take up lots of space

**Clean out your dryer lint after each cycle. A deep clean of your vent system should be done at least twice a year.**

5. Leave the washer door open once you finish laundry for the day. This will help with odors and mildew buildup.

At the end of each washing day, I open my washer door and the detergent bin to reduce odors.

6. Lastly, set up a laundry system that every single person in your household can easily understand and use in your absence, especially if you are the main laundry guru. For example, everyone has a separate basket/bin to put away their own clothes, or each family member knows how to sort, use washer and dryer, and deal with laundry once if it finished in the dryer.

How to prevent a “washed out mess” in the Laundry Room:

Sort clothes by colors.
Read your labels and set your washing cycle accordingly.
Only fill washer 3/4 full so detergent can work efficiently. Also speaking of efficiency, Be mindful of how much detergent you use. If using a liquid detergent the recommended line on bottle cap is probably too much if load washing isn’t really dirty, or heavily soiled laundry.

Less plastics in laundry cycle! Try these laundry detergent cubes now available at WCH

4. Keep laundry supplies well stocked… laundry detergent, Oxygenated cleaner, and a good enzyme spray like a pre-treatment cleaner. I also keep Dawn detergent in my laundry room for oil based grease stains… I often deal with those type of stains fairly regularly in our household. Did you know that Wilkes County Hardware can keep you stocked on your laundry room essentials???

5. Pretreat stains prior to going in washer. Dawn detergent works well on grease or oily stains. Most Food stains can usually be removed by using an all purpose stain remover that is enzyme based. Dirt stains… borax, baking soda, Oxy, or washing powders can be helpful.

6. Wash and dry laundry with the actual weight of clothes in mind. For example, Towels and blue jeans are much heavier and will require more drying time. It is probably best not to wash these together. Spread the love… do two separate loads of these items! Lighter weight clothes should dry faster so you might want to consider a short, time dry cycle and take those out first as the heavier weight items continue to dry.

7. Make sure you have a system that works for your family when it comes to checking pockets. I personally don’t check pockets prior to doing laundry unless I hear the jingle going into the washer😳😬 We are all responsible for checking and cleaning out our own pockets in the Searcy household. But I’ll admit, sometimes I do find things like nuts, bolts, coins, box cutters, pocket knives, etc. The absolute worst, a Sharpie marker or pen!!! Ugh!!! No one wants to have clothes ruined by these!!! I’m speaking from my own personal experience!!

8. Have a laundry system in place that whole family can live by and understand!!! Everyone pitches in to help with the laundry here at our house. As it comes out of the dryer, we hang up clothes that need it. Socks, towels can be dumped into the laundry basket. Some families use a bin system for each person so they can put away their own clothes. The point is to get everyone involved because every family member has a vested interest in their own laundry!

9. Use dryer balls to reduce drying time. Another quick hack is to use an older dry bath towel and throw it into the dryer so clothes will dry faster.

My laundry day wish for you… hoping that it “all comes out in the wash” soon so you can enjoy those few beautiful moments when it’s all done! And remember, Wilkes County Hardware is here to help you when you are feeling all washed up and ready for a bit of laundry day success. 🧺

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