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I’m Just Sayin’

The Southern vernacular is distinct. Case in point, Buggy. If you are from the South, you know this IS your grocery store shopping cart. Those common Southern phrases that are used in everyday language makes total sense to the user, but, for someone who has never heard that phrase… it can be a definite learning experience.

Rows of Grocery Shoppin’ Buggies

The Southern dialect is deeply rooted in our colonial past with the integral interaction of various immigrant cultures. Likewise, other regions of the US developed similarly with native dialects and spoken vernacular.

A Southerner can speak to a “non native” of the South in welcoming, hospitable terms… because that’s what we do. We welcome folks here to our corner of the world. But don’t underestimate that “sugary, sweet tea tone” nor the intelligence of the Southern speaker. A true Southern knows that “you can catch more flies with honey than vinegar” with the power of words and actions… AND because those same words can leave you “wondering if your cornbread ain’t done in the middle”. That’s right, I surely reckon a well versed Southern can easily complement you and “Bless your heart” all in the same sentence. 😬

Cornbread and buttermilk crumbled together… a snack or a meal????

As a hardware store owner, I have had the opportunity to converse with our customers each day. We have have had the pleasure to meet and talk with people from all over the globe. That’s right, from literally every corner of the world in our small, Southern town, inside our hardware store.

As conversation would have it, we have been able to learn a few “new”Southern phrases over the last ten years and even shared a few iconic phrases with non-native Southerners to take back home with them to their corner of the world.

A powerful conversation starter for us at the hardware store most days is the status of the weather. Whether it is freezing cold, pouring rain, or a beautiful sunny day, Southerners say it perfectly, as we often experience the ever changing weather conditions within the same day/week.

I’m Just Sayin’… Southern Phrases and the Weather

  1. It’s Hotter than blue blazes! meaning it’s hot outside and the blue part of flame is the hottest!
  2. That rain was a Gully washer! short heavy rain storm
  3. Boy, that was a Frog strangler… a big rain storm 
  4. It’s RAW outside today… meaning it’s cold and wet/moisture in the air 
  5. It’s hog killing weather. Very Cold Weather
  6. It’s cold as all get out! Brr
  7. Looks like it might be blowin up a storm out there.
Storm Brewin’

8. It’s not the heat, it’s the humidity

9. This is front porch sittin weather- mild weather, nice weather

10. Too hot to heat up the oven in this weather…

I’m Just Sayin… The Southern Greetings and the Long Goodbye

The Southern hello or greeting can take you back home… even though your Southern roots/home might be hundreds of miles away. It’s a way Southerners“visit with each other”. Likewise, the long Southern goodbye, makes total sense if you ever grew up in the South, and spent 30 minutes in a parking lot trying to leave somewhere saying “Let me let you go…” or watched your Mama try to get off the rotary phone with a friend, that’s in essence, the long Southern goodbye. Here’s a few of my favorites from this category:

Many Southern conversations take place inside our vintage walls at Wilkes County Hardware
  1. Hey, not hi! 
  2. Howdy, how y’all doin?
  3. I’ll holler at you later! I’ll call you later
  4. You good? Do you need anything? How are you?
  5. I guess I’d better Skedaddle– get out of here, it’s time to go 
  6. I haven’t seen you in a Month of Sundays– it’s been long time since we’ve seen each other
  7. How’s your Mama and them? How’s the family doing
  8. How you been doing? I’m upright and taking nourishment… meaning doing ok
  9. How are you doing?? Fair to middlin’ Doing ok
  10. How are you doing? I’m finer than Frogs Hair! Doing great! Couldn’t be better
  11. Boy, you are a sight for sore eyes! Good to see you!
  12. So, who is your mama and daddy??? Meaning, you meet another person for the first time and they ask… who are your people… making connections and learning about who you are
  13. I’ve known her since she was knee high to a grasshopper- know her since she was a young child
  14. As part of that long Southern goodbye, you might possibly hear this phrase, Lord willing and the creek doesn’t rise!
  15. Finally, finishing off the long Southern goodbye with this final phrase, We’d better hurry up, we’re burning daylight! 

I’m Just Sayin…The Southern Meal

Dinner and Supper are the terms Southerners use to describe the afternoon and evening meals. Supper doesn’t have to be a formal affair. It can be a casual family meal where everyone gathers to eat a simple meal. The Southern table is no exception to amazing food and fellowship. You probably have heard of a few of these phrases as you have entered the Southern kitchen to help prepare a meal or gathered at the Southern table.

Mess of green beans with new potatoes”, this gorgeous white enamel bowl is available for purchase at WCH… great for all kitchen or gardening tasks!
  1. Many hands make light work. Working together we can get it done quickly
  2. Sop– soak up … like a biscuit soaking up the last bit of gravy from your plate 
  3. You didn’t eat enough to keep a bird alive… meaning you didn’t eat enough
  4. I just need a smidge more of this… a little bit more
  5. I got a Hankering… craving for
  6. I’m so full, I’m about to bust my britches!!! Or I’m full as a tick!
  7. Grab me a pack of Nabs… Lance peanut butter crackers, can be eaten for a snack, substitute for dinner/lunch when you are on the run…
Pack of Nabs to go…always available for purchase at WCH

8. Don’t throw out that bacon grease, put it in my mason jar. It’ll keep.

Bacon grease jar… do you have one???

9. That’s Good potlikker… when cooking up a mess of collards or mustard greens, the remaining liquid gold is the potlikker.

10. Stringing up a “Mess” of green beans and “new potatoes”. A mess of green beans, not enough to run a full canner, but enough to feed the family… new potatoes, smallish potatoes just dug from garden and cooked with green beans usually. Now that’s summer cookin’.

11. Sit down and “fix you a plate”, meaning… make yourself at home, grab a plate, and load up on the good food!

These enamel plates are new, at WCH!!!

12. Sonker, nope, that is actually a dessert! Read more about it here using the link… Sonker Summers

Peach Sonker ready to go into oven

13. Mater sandwich– tomato sandwich 🍅

Summer “maters” means a good sandwich is on the way…

I’m Just Sayin…Strong Soul-Stirring Southern Phrases

These phrases are iconic and unforgettable… I’m just sayin’

  1. Well, I’ll Be… a form of exasperation
  2. Heavens to Besty! Similar to the phrase, oh my goodness!!
  3. Lord, just kiss them up to Heaven! only the Good Lord can help them now… I’m at my wits end 
  4. Bless! Or Bless Your Little Ol’ Heart…
  5. Aren’t you just precious! Listen for the user tone with this one
  6. I’m just worn slap out, Plumb tired – exhausted
  7. Look at you… all gussied up! All dressed up
  8. It’s all cattywampus … all out of sorts, not quite right 
  9. If it had been a snake, it would have bitten me! It was right there under my sight, just couldn’t see it!
  10. Take your own sweet time 
  11. Boy, that really “got my goose”…got the best of me, stumped me
  12. You’re just cute as button! Pumpkin or Sweet Pea… terms of endearment
  13. Smack Dab– in the middle of doing something
  14. “I’ll get to it dreckly”, meaning I’ll do it soon
  15. Mash that button for me, like in an elevator you don’t push a button, you mash it.
  16. I’m just gonna “Hunker” down over yonder … I’m staying home , not moving around, staying put
  17. Fixin to… getting ready to do something 

I’m Just Sayin…Phrases A Southern Kid Never Wanted to Hear

If your Southern Mama or Daddy used these phrases in conversation with YOU growing up, you might have been a bit of trouble or needed to rethink your current situation… just sayin

Southern Word… SAAVE
  1. You weren’t raised in a barn”shut that door please!
  2. Mind your manners/ Act like you have been to town before… meaning behave yourself in public places
  3. Don’t make me tan your hide! Warning… trouble ahead 😬 if you don’t straighten up!
  4. Y’all quit that wrasslin, or I’ll come over there and jerk a knot in you. 
  5. Hold your britches, I’m comin!
  6. Piddlin… messing around, not doing much or Lollygaggin, “movin slower than molasses”
  7. Who is making all that ruckus? Who is making all that noise
  8. Over there havin a hissy fit, all tore up over it, or don’t fly off the handle!
  9. Quit being ugly– stop acting out
  10. We need to have a come to Jesus meeting… we need to have a talk and come to terms about this situation
  11. Let me put some Saave on it… the A sound is long… Salve- a cream or ointment put onto skin to soothe or heal  
  12. That’s not cutting the mustard, in other words, you probably need to redo what you’re working on, not meeting expectations
  13. Quit making a mountain outta that molehill… it’s really not that big of a deal as you think it is
  14. OR as a kid if you ever said this to your Mama or Daddy before school… I just got Bus left… meaning you missed the school bus and you need a ride to school!!!! 🚌

I feel confident that there are a ton more Southern phrases that are very commonplace within our Southern community. But I’ll stop while I’m behind… 😂😬

I’ll close with one that Wayne, who worked many years at our hardware store used everyday as his daily farewell. This phrase maybe unfamiliar to you, but it is too good not to share his classic farewell with you today for my closing… “If you need me, I’ll call you”-Wayne Matherly

Winter 2025

The Winter season officially began December 21st and will end on March 20th. From cold wintry temperatures, a few snowy days, and even icy morning conditions the winter weather has been season to remember in 2025. Thanks for the beautiful photographic memories Winter!

FYI: Two photos below have active links to more recent blog posts!!!! (New Orleans and Cloud Dancing) Please check those out as well 😊

Winter Solstice Sunrise
New Beginnings… January 1, 2025
Golden Sunrise
Icy morning
Waiting on the Snow
It begins…
A new coat of white… snowy afternoon
Snowy Morning
Snow Day
Snowy Branches
Crunchy!
A Walk into the Woods
Snow on the Mountains
Sunset at Buck Mountain after the Snow
Snow Capped Golden Hour
Looking into the Valley
January Wolf Moon
Winter Beauty
Hello Sunshine
Colorful Sunrise
Pink Sky
Winter Sunrise Glory
Drama in the Sky
Rainbow Sunrise
Winter Days are Lazy Days, JOY
All wrapped up, COOKIE
Winter Blooms
Morning Coffee
New Orleans
Cloud Dancing
Butterfly Sky
March Masterpiece
Magical March Sunrise
Lavender Sky
A Little Floral Volunteer… a prelude to Spring
Ready to emerge
In full bloom
Hello Buttercup!
New Growth

Cloud Dancing

Have you ever heard of the expression, “Get your head out of the clouds?” If someone says something like this to you, they want you to be more “grounded in reality”… focusing less on daydreaming.

Air flight offers us the opportunity to be “in the clouds” and to Cloud Dance… flying through and above the clouds. Being in and above the clouds offers us the opportunity to witness a place where our humanity is not truly visible everyday.

Soaring Above

The world of aviation offers a unique experience to be able to see our world in a very different and special way. When I fly, I always reserve a window seat so I can watch the clouds, and the sky. Graciously, my husband always grants me the courtesy of the window seat.

These clouds are tightly packed together

I will admit that some flight opportunities are a bit rougher initially, in what I like to call the process of cloud dancing (turbulence) where the journey into the thick cloud line that permeates the sky is like playing a game of hopscotch at times. You must get above all the clouds in order to see clearly, gaining visibility.

Cloud Dancing

One of the last flight memories that I recall during takeoff, the sky was looming with clouds… gray and dark. Snow and ice was forecasted to arrive later in the afternoon. The sun appeared to be lost. As the final preparations for our flight began, The pilot came over the speaker and said to all flying companions on board, “Folks, this might be a bumpy ride ahead.” Once in flight and our elevation increased, the cloud dancing experience began.

Silence expanded in the main cabin and the motion and movement into the cloud line, and a small amount of turbulence was underway.

Sun beginning to set over the Clouds

Flying into those clouds, it was a total cloud fog. I couldn’t see anything for what it seemed like several minutes. A bit of anxiety rushed through my mind. But, the sure and steady handiwork of our flight crew, we were quickly approaching higher altitudes.

That cloud filled experience…

Another quick glance out the window restored my sense of confidence. The plane was now above the clouds and the flight path was visibly clear. The immensely thick cloud layer was visible and comfortably below. I immediately caught the first glimpse of the sun that day and I was stunned momentarily…a revelation was beginning to unfold in that moment of Cloud Dancing.

There it was… shining above that cloud line, it was so bright that I began to instantly squint my eyes with the light bouncing against the white, fluffy cloud line. I was in awe. There was the SUN unseen to me earlier that day because my actual physical location was below the clouds. I was having a moment of wonder and enlightenment after that Cloud Dancing experience. I’ll elaborate a bit.

Low level, stratus clouds create fog. When our heads are “fogged over with the mundane things” we may not have the opportunity to CLOUD DANCE. Once above the cloud line, we can see the light, the SUN.

Fog rolling into the Valley

Once above the cloud line, a clear flight path creates less resistance and the thinner air allows for a higher speed for the aircraft to move forward. The time to reach your destination will literally just “fly” by! My thoughts were racing with this idea of the sun being above the clouds… the metaphor was felt internally. Maybe we need to get above the clouds to find our path(light) and soar.

Filtered Light

Which brings me to the mention of Thin Places and connecting to my experience of Cloud Dancing. A dear friend, Sheree Sloop, shared the concept of Thin Places with our retreat group several years ago. A Thin Place is an experience or a place where you feel at peace or have a close connection with God. In Thin Places, the distance between heaven and earth becomes “thinner” with these encounters. These experiences are not usually destinations that you visit… these are personal experiences that are unhurried, unique to the person, where we can catch a glimpse of heaven and beyond. The experience can be transformative and inspiring.

A Thin Place

Cloud Dancing was a Thin Place experience for me. The awe and wonder of being above the clouds was breathtakingly peaceful and the message that was delivered from the “holy ground” experience of Cloud Dancing was received.. finding the light above the clouds. He’s the light always. Being in a place where humans rarely tread… in the clouds.

Every Thin Place experience is uniquely different in the eye of the beholder… Cloud Dancing may not be a Thin Place for you. I have flown several times prior and not had this experience before. Why this time?? I believe that I was in a quiet reflective state and receptive to God’s message.

The beauty of Thin Places is the nearness or connection to God is key. Yes, you can find your own Thin Place. It could be a walk in the woods, driving alone in your car, a quiet reflective prayer, finding solace in a communion service, rocking on your front porch, or even simply enjoying a sermon in the church pew… the common factor, the “Holy Ground” experience… the sense of sacredness, and the connection with God.

Sheree shared a mediation with me as I began to work on this piece. She included this meditation in her last labyrinth group walk that she recently facilitated and I’ll share a portion with you today. Thank you Sheree! “as we set an intention for our labyrinth walk, I would like for us to think about the labyrinth as “sacred space” or “holy ground.”   The Chartres labyrinth and others from the Middle Ages were often referred to as a “Road to Jerusalem.” When the Crusades and poverty prevented Christians of the Middle Ages from making pilgrimages to the Holy Land, Church officials commissioned the building of labyrinths in seven of the great European cathedrals. Christians could then make a symbolic, spiritual journey by walking a labyrinth. I often think about the places I consider as “Holy Ground”. I remember how it feels when I suddenly find myself in that thin place.  For me, the grounds at St. Paul’s are “holy ground.”  The labyrinth in Coventry Chapel especially, seems to be a very special thin place and I know I’m walking on holy ground when I enter it.  Sometimes I feel it in my chest, sometimes I feel the tingle on my arms or a shiver up my back.  I think of all the dear souls who are resting there and wonder just how thin that veil really is.”

St. Paul’s Coventry Chapel and Labyrinth

If you have ever had a “holy ground” or a Thin Place experience, I hope you can connect to my feelings of Cloud Dancing. The next time someone says, “get your head out of the clouds”, let them know that Cloud Dancing is a way to find light above the clouds, and maybe even much more.

2024 Photography Favorites

Beginning in early 2024, I wrote these opening lines: “I have decided to take this year and document and capture memories… from our everyday life activities. Everything isn’t glamorous, we work long hours, 6 days a week, but Richard and I find time to share and unwind. I hope you enjoy a few of my favorite collected moments via photography.”

What a journey it has been! Here’s a look at a few of my photo favorites from each month in 2024. Below each photograph, I will include the original link to each month from 2024, in case you missed it or would like to see more photos from each month.

Time passes like clouds in the sky…

January Photographed
February Photos
March Photo Favorites
March Photo Favorites
April

Winter Gives away to Spring…

Majestic May

Bringing forth the Hues of Summer…

June Memories Photographed
July
August
September: A Mountain Montage

Summer fades into Fall

October
November
December

Different minutes of the same hour it seems in 2024. Thanks for the memories!

December

A brief dusting of snow began December 2024, making me long for a bit more.

December marks the beginnings of the winter season. Winter… a time of perseverance and optimism for spring will come.

December, Christmas is near.

A Light Dusting
Snowy Morning Surprise
Snowy Stack
At Dusk
Winter Solstice Sunrise
Waiting on Sunrise
December 31st… That Touch of Pink

Random Happenings

You never know what you will find in the middle of a grocery store parking lot!
Parking lot golf????

Christmas at Home 2024

Fresh Mistletoe for Christmas! Thanks to Kim Reid for the adventure!
New additions this year to my green plants to add a festive flare, pine cones and berries for the holiday season
Our Christmas clock is a family favorite
Bobbles and Santa
Handmade Christmas
Handmade Christmas
Handmade Christmas
This Christmas was the first year we put our inflatable back out in several years. Our sweet little neighbor has enjoyed it so much this year. Our original “Snowy” the polar bear was injured by heavy rain earlier this month. Santa was our quick find as a replacement.
Cookie watching over her neighborhood

Thank you to everyone who has followed along my year long photographic journey in 2024 exploring the everyday life of #thehardwarelife. I’m excited about new opportunities in 2025! Coming soon, the Favorites of 2024 revisited. Stay posted on the blog.

Wishing y’all a very happy New Year!