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Cancer Journal #6…Tackling The Colossal Elephant, Cancer

March 31, 2026 hardwarelifewife Leave a comment

A new ornament on my Christmas tree this past year… full of symbolism and inspiration for my cancer journey

The African Male Elephant can weigh up to 14,000 pounds, making it the largest of all land animals! A female elephant weight is a bit smaller, coming in at about 6,000 to 8,000 pounds on average. Regardless of the weight, the elephant is a huge animal! Experiencing Cancer can be a heavy experience similar to the weight of an elephant.

Receiving a cancer diagnosis and embarking on a health journey like facing cancer is similar to tackling a colossal elephant. The old joke goes “how do you eat an elephant??? One bite at a time … What really does this old phrase really indicate??? Navigating the cancer experience requires bite-sized steps, breaking it down into manageable parts allowing progress, much like the elephant metaphor suggests… not eating the elephant itself.

Experiencing Cancer is the very similar to eating an elephant…You tackle it one day at a time. Focusing your energy on the most pressing task at hand, learning as you go through it… based upon my own personal experience. The “Cancer Elephant” is a massive task to tackle.

These cute little elephant watering cans are found at WCH

What’s it like eating that “cancer elephant” one bite at a time??? 🐘🐘Here’s a quick look at my personal experience with my “cancer elephant”… one day at a time.

–Initial scans and tests to confirm diagnosis (multiple doctor visits/tests)… I think I lost count of the number of trips between home and Winston Salem between early November to March 2026.

–Meeting new oncology doctors… I have a few different ones in my cancer journey… (oncology surgical , medical oncology, radiation oncology)these are the ones I have met so far in my own cancer journey. After I completed radiation treatments, I will continue to see my medical oncology doctor moving forward every 3 months. I will also follow up with my surgeon early this summer. Mammogram/ MRI’s will probably alternate every 6 months.

Female elephants-creating a perfect sisterhood, more coming up as you read on

-“Dealing with the Elephant in the Room” Cancer impacts family members. Beginning to tell family and friends about your new cancer diagnosis and trying to help them to understand your ongoing treatment is a necessary step. It is essential to note…Cancer patients move forward from one appointment to the next, often waiting several days or maybe even weeks in between, before the next test or appointment occurs. This waiting process can be unsettling to loved ones who would love to have the full “cancer puzzle” picture in their mind. The waiting game on all the “puzzle pieces” to come together. This is what happens sometimes when multiple tests/scans are needed in order to move forward with confirmation of a cancer diagnosis. It can be taxing for some people who wish to have full “puzzle picture” in mind.

–“Eating the Elephant one bite at a time”…Reading and Researching to learn more about your specific cancer

I have read extensively about Invasive Ductal Carcinoma. And the key dietary changes as a new cancer patient that was highly recommended. Lastly, the lack of estrogen within my own body moving forward (after treatment)… slowly digesting the “cancer elephant chunks” all the while, trying new to apply what I have learned so far. This research process is in my ongoing timeline into the future as my cancer path changes.

–Navigating and using your Cancer Resources Did you know that an elephant can use its own body resources effectively to cool down, swim, eat, and to protect itself?

At my cancer diagnosis appointment, I was given a large amount of information about breast cancer. It was impossible to digest it all at once. But luckily the information came with three nurse navigators to help me. They helped me initially by making key appointments with my new medical oncology team.

I’m still able to use these three ladies as concerns have arisen, and they have help me with those questions like dietary needs, and integrative cancer medicine, and more!

Breast cancer Facebook groups have been helpful to me as people are facing similar challenges with cancer. I have been able to gain a few insights within this group as I have moved through this process.

This was an amazing resource which broke down each part of the cancer treatment process

–“Elephant Diet” …Implementing healthy dietary changes

I have learned that experiencing cancer and cancer treatments changes your bodies metabolic needs. Cancer creates a weakened immune system which in turn, facilitates the need for a healthy diet to strengthen your body. Also, a healthy diet can help in maintaining muscle mass, and help with weight management.

Elephants eat a variety of plants, fruits and twigs to sustain themselves. Now, after my cancer diagnosis, over half of my plate is mostly vegetables! This new change is a continuous marathon, that will hopefully continue for years ahead.

Cancer Journal #5- Simple Switches for a Lifetime of Health

–Grocery Shopping with a true Whole Foods mission …For the last several months, I have been purchasing foods to defeat cancer and reading labels like a cancer superhero! We all three (in our household), flip the nutrition labels over and often discuss the label contents. AND Turning labels over and reading contents in the drug store too! Estrogen can be found in skin care or beauty products.

–Preparing for surgery and surgical recovery … There were a few key essential items that I needed prior to my surgery. Those items were purchased prior to my surgery date in early January. After my cancer surgery, it took about 2 weeks for me to recover. As my energy level increased slowly, the residual pain/pressure subsided from the surgery.

–“Drink like an Elephant”Preparing for Radiation Therapy…My cycle of radiation did not begin until after surgery healing and oncology follow ups had occurred. Once radiation began, I personally experienced tiredness that stayed with me for several days after treatments.

Hydration helped me tremendously as well as walking a bit after radiation treatment each time. I tried to make sure that I had enough electrolytes and non-caffeinated drinks after radiation. Elephants can drink as much as 50 gallons a day of water!!! Wow!!! And we think that 8 full glasses of water a day is a lot!!!

Thankfully, the radiation treatments were spread out over a few weeks. The after effects of radiation treatments can last in body for a few weeks afterward… skin burns, irritation, redness, and tiredness.

A powerful combination… protein shakes, Sugar Free Gatorade, and water before and after radiation treatments

–Allowing time to Rest

Elephants can sleep standing up, but for a more relaxing deeper sleep they need to lie down for a few hours. This means that they are more vulnerable to a predator attack. Often elephants will not lie down unless they feel completely safe within their tribe. Luckily, that herd mentality is a strong force within the pack and active watch is kept to protect those who are sick or need the rest.

I quickly learned that cancer changes your energy levels and energy can fluctuate.. good energy days and bad days are common. I have found out that my body needs more restorative sleep in order to recover over the last few months of experiencing cancer.

My boys are definitely good at reading my body signals as well AND have encouraged me to rest as I need it. I’m definitely going to bed earlier and sleeping a bit later each day. My work schedule isn’t back up to normal yet due to this reason as my energy level fluctuates.

–“Think like an Elephant”Adjusting your mindset

Cancer IS life altering. Life definitely changes after Cancer. Just because active treatment is over doesn’t mean the cancer fight is over. Cancer Reoccurrence is always a concern for every cancer patient and survivor. The doctor appointments maybe fewer in number, but scans, bloodwork, medication can continue for several years afterward.

The Maintenance of a healthy lifestyle can help reduce risk of a cancer reoccurrence. Let’s chunk it down a bit more…

The elephant brain weighs anywhere from 10-12 pounds, and it is the largest brain of any land animal!!! The large temporal lobe of the elephant creates the ability of long term memory. Did you know that Elephants have the ability to remember an interaction with another elephant from years ago and an elephant can remember places they have traveled to before??? The essence… the memory of an elephant is sharp! So there is truth in the statement that an elephant never forgets!!

The same “elephant memory” is carried by a cancer patient /survivor. They never forget what they have been through and don’t wish to face another cancer reoccurrence.

That being said, some cancer survivors will continue to make the healthy lifestyle changes permanent, being a “mindful elephant” with the goal of trying to prevent a reoccurrence or relapse.

– Cancer Life after “active treatment”

What will life look at after surgery, radiation, chemotherapy, when all of the major “cancer stuff” is over???

Life in POST CANCER… I have learned Life after active treatment is an adjustment not only for yourself, but your body. The human body needs time to fully recover and heal from the stress of active cancer treatment. Often times the outside world assumes that life for a cancer survivor goes back to normal, because they no longer see the “visible parts” of the cancer journey after the day to day appointments disappear, and the visible treatments are over.

I understand this fact more intimately now that I’m seeing it for myself as well as my fellow cancer friends who have been through this process before me.

Ultimately changing that perception, along with carrying the weight of the“cancer elephant”, can be heavy. It’s just a bit messy.

For me personally, Post treatment cancer, will be adapting and finding a new “normal” in daily life while, allowing rest as I need it. AND adjusting to a new medication for the next five years.

I’ll write more about this in another blog post as my body has time to adjust and I meet my another new doctor, an Integrated Cancer Health in early April.

–NED Status… NED (No Evidence of Disease) This is a term/status that cancer patients want to ultimately achieve. No evidence of disease (cancer) present on scans, bloodwork or other results. This takes time to achieve and I’m looking forward to reaching this milestone. I’m cautiously optimistic that I’m getting closer to this milestone as surgery went well, and radiation is completely finished. Some people rank cancer survivorship at a 5 year mark after no reoccurrence has materialized.

-“Elephant Emotions” …Connecting with Other Cancer Survivors

Elephants have shown researchers that they have the ability to show a range of emotions like being able to show love, joy, empathy, compassion, and even grief.

In the wild, Female elephants tend to travel together in a herd working together for the good of the female pack. These females will circle around each other in times of distress, giving birth, or offering protection to the sick/weak from nearby predators. Female elephants have a strong bond amongst themselves and they consistently work together to rear the youngest elephants in the herd.

Similarly, Cancer survivors often circle around newly diagnosed cancer patients. These survivors offer kindness, friendship, compassion, and empathy as they begin this highly individualized cancer journey.

I’m very thankful to those cancer survivors who took time to help me navigate this journey. Thank you 💕.

My family members and friends who made me feel wrapped in love and prayers as I have navigated through this journey, I’m so grateful. 💕Thank you. I have appreciated your kind words, cards, messages, and prayers.

The Cancer journey can be uniquely different for each individual… from the type of cancer, how oncology doctors choose to treat it, and many other factors.

I’ll conclude by stating, cancer survivors all have one key thing in common.. tackling the colossal elephant of cancer, one day at a time, offering the gift of Grace to those who need it the most, even themselves. In some form, I think we all can use the elephant analogy and apply it in regard to our own daily lives.

Thank you to all who have helped me tackle this colossal cancer elephant, one day at a time. I’m so grateful for your kindness, love, and circling around me in my continuing cancer journey.

Footnote: I have now finished my active cancer treatment and have begun my medication phase for the next 5 years… medication until 2031! It’s been a bit of an adjustment due to managing some side effects, but I’m hopeful.

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Cancer Journal #5- Simple Switches for a Lifetime of Health

March 8, 2026 hardwarelifewife 5 Comments

I’ve been attempting to learn how to play Mahjong. This tile game has been around for many years and has become extremely popular recently. When the opportunity to learn to play came my way, I decided to try my hand at this tile game, and laughing with good friends an extra healthy benefit ☺️.

Sometimes in the middle the midst of a game, I can sense that the tiles I need to complete my hand are not coming to me. It’s time to pivot. When playing Mahjong, hopefully this insight comes earlier in the game than later… Is there potentially another hand that I can easily switch to… making a swap for success???

Mahjong Tiles on the mat before the game begins!

Recently, I was talking with another cancer patient, who is also a good friend and it’s worth mentioning that I have relied on his own personal experiences with cancer as my own cancer health journey has unfolded. Carl and I often discuss the “good foods” for cancer patients, and discuss the research behind it. Carl said something very insightful in a recent conversation. Looking back, I’m not even really sure what foods we were discussing at that time, but what he said definitely stuck with me. What Carl basically said that totally describes the evolution of how cancer has impacted my food choices… it is the simple swaps that creates the lasting change, adding them in slowly over time.

In reflection of that conversation, have been just that! Cancer has brought about the time to pivot… just like my Mahjong game analogy!

My dietary switches haven’t been a sprint to the finish line but a slow, steady pace of change, with the focus on nutrient rich foods to fuel my body through this cancer journey. I’m very thankful for dear friends who have been down this path of healthy eating during treatment and yes, even after active treatment, who have been able to guide me through this new way of eating. Thank you fellow cancer survivors and friends… your support means the world to me!

Food plays a key role in prevention…“you are what you eat”, as the old saying goes … it is true! Our overall dietary choices impacts inflammation, metabolism, and yes, future disease risk. Being diagnosed with Breast Cancer has definitely changed what I consume. The nutritional needs of a cancer patient focuses on the maintenance of muscle mass, while combining healthy eating as well as boosting the immune system. In order for all that to happen, simple swaps have been necessary for better health.

Instead of potato chips I have made purple sweet potato chips!!! A fun little swap

Breast Cancer patients need a good portion of protein each day (90 grams). Please keep in mind, these recommendations are for women… men your recommendations may look slightly different! Good sources of Lean animal proteins… chicken and fish, eggs, and whole grains. Beans/legumes are all good sources of protein. I’ve been experimenting with lentils recently as a new additional swap. I recently made a lentil casserole… lentils, mushrooms, and veggies. We enjoyed it!

My cancer dietician used the analogy of imagining a deck of cards as a guide for protein on your plate. That “deck of cards of protein” on your plate would be equivalent to around 28 grams.

Chicken is a dietary staple. I was struggling to figure out how to boost my remaining white rice in my pantry to add more nutritional value… added frozen veggies and saffron and it was a definite improvement!!!

According to the cancer dietary guidelines, some Proteins need limiting…red meat! Ugh!!! Red meat lovers… this one is hard! Red meat consumption (18 ounces week) and another suggestion…eliminating processed meats (sandwich meats, bacon, sausage, hot dogs, pepperoni, etc)!!! That’s right… BACON!!!😬

Why??? Processed meats are considered a class 1 carcinogens. These types of meats include chemicals that can increase risk of developing certain types of cancer like colon cancer and other cancers. More research is ongoing but it is definitely worth noting this.

Based on my research, and discussions with my cancer dietitian… I am trying to make half of each meal fruits or vegetables. Vegetables are a powerful source of not only fiber but nutrients needed in the body. The goal is to have at least 25g of fiber and LESS than 25g of sugar a day. Folks, that’s not a lot of sugar… bye, bye dessert! 😳

Cruciferous vegetables are fantastic for cancer patients… broccoli, cauliflower, red cabbage, Brussel sprouts

As a result of these new switches over time, I have begun to decrease my carb intake since last November. Pasta is pretty much a thing of the past for me and I don’t miss it. It is also worth noting, Carbohydrates and sugar are important in maintaining a healthy diet and I haven’t totally ignored them.

Instead of pasta… I have moved to a full plate of steamed vegetables with some spaghetti sauce. It is absolutely one of my favorite switches!!

Let’s move onto the elephant in the room… Sugar. Sugar is found in two forms.. natural sugars and added sugars(processed sugars). Natural sugars are the way to go! Natural sugars that are found in whole, unprocessed foods such as fruits, milk, vegetables and grains…these are considered complex carbohydrates.

Breakfast fruits (natural sugars) with Low sugar Yogurt gives me a punch of protein too!

The body processes complex carbohydrates more efficiently and slowly. It is more work for your body to digest complex carbohydrates than digesting simple sugars. Processing simple sugars can create spikes of glucose in your body. Complex carbohydrates contain fiber, vitamins, minerals and phytochemicals in addition to natural sugars. All of these nutrients are important to overall energy, health and immunity.

So here’s the kicker for cancer patients… Every cell in the body requires glucose for fuel, including cancer cells, AND glucose also feeds the cells in the rest of the body. We cannot pick and choose which cells get what nutrients/fuel… the phrase sugar feeds cancer cells is somewhat true!

The fact is that all cells, including cancer cells, need sugar in the form of glucose to generate energy. All Cells use glucose the way cars use gas for fuel. Normal cells use a reasonable amount of gas, but cancer cells are like gas guzzlers! 😳

Cancer cells are like cars with the accelerator stuck to the floor, using glucose at higher rates because they are dividing at much faster rates than normal cells.

*Cancer cells definitely don’t use a speed limit!!! 😬*

What is absolutely amazing… dietary switches and changes can limit that gas guzzler impact!!! If those changes or swaps aren’t made, diets in high in added sugars and ultra-processed foods can continue to increase inflammation over time. Chronic inflammation isn’t great for overall health.. which can lead to a weakened immune system…opening the door for other diseases or yes, maybe even a cancer reoccurrence!!! No way!!! , I definitely don’t want that, so the switch is on!

All this being said about the necessity of cancer nutrition, I’m not depriving myself of a special treat every now and then. I definitely will enjoy a side of French fries or tots with a meal every-once-in -a while or my favorite comfort food. AND it worth saying, that Eating out can be a challenge. My overall palate has begun to change and I physically need more vegetables and fruits to balance out my diet, that can be hard to find at certain places.

Stuffed flounder with crab and shrimp on a bed of hash browns… a little treat with lots of good stuff still on the plate… spinach included!

Making switches in my diet has been an ongoing learning process… eating and shopping for great cancer fighting foods. I grocery shop now by turning labels over before I buy. It will stay on the shelf if the sugar content is too high or nutrient value is too low. It has been a journey to find new products and recipes that will fit this lifestyle change, permanently. Has my grocery shopping list changed? Absolutely! Am I spending more money??? Ummm… probably not. My swaps have changed in the nature of what stays in my pantry and refrigerator, AND some things just aren’t worth the purchase anymore!

Have I actually shed a few pounds??? Possibly, but my overall activity level has dropped significantly due to surgery recovery, sickness, and now radiation treatments. My goal is to get back to “normal-ish” soon! Allowing my body to rest and recover has been a process for me, adjusting my cancer mindset.

Chicken tortilla soup loaded with beans has been a great addition to post radiation meals… during radiation, boosting protein intake is necessary

Living through Cancer has been a definite challenge. Taking things one day at a time, navigating through a myriad of research, eating with simple swaps, constant appointments, recovery, rest, and ultimately, the HOPE of NED (no evidence of disease).

HOPE… a simple reminder as I walk into the cancer center each visit 💕

Hope and faith is definitely important in the cancer journey mindset. Here’s something to consider as someone who has never been through the cancer journey and for the overall cancer mindset… Just because active cancer treatment ends (surgery, constant appointments, scans, chemotherapy, radiation) doesn’t mean the fight is over. The cancer fight never truly ends for a cancer patient/survivor.

For those who have not been diagnosed or had a family member who faced cancer, here’s something worth mentioning… Often times cancer patients are faced with taking medications for several years following the active treatment schedule (ie: surgery, radiation, chemotherapy) AND The Appointments still occur (which maybe less frequent), bloodwork, and scans are required years afterward. Cancer is always in the rear view mirror of your life as a cancer survivor. It’s just a different phase of the cancer journey.

Pink morning skies are extra special this March as I have begun Radiation Treatments

This is also my story. I will be on estrogen suppressant medication for 5 years after radiation therapy is completed this month. The side effects of these medications necessitates a healthy lifestyle. Using the dietary simple swaps, physical activity, and much more will be a long term lifestyle change not only for medication necessities, but in hopes to prevent a cancer reoccurrence.

Core Power protein shakes has been a great find!!! These a good boost when needed.

My ultimate hope for you is that YOU can use these simple switches and include them in your daily routine. I simply started out last November initially with increasing my own mindful awareness of my fruit and vegetable consumption… the first swap and step… slowly adding more swaps over the last 4 months. You too can do this for better health if that’s a goal for yourself and your family in 2026, beginning with one simple swap.

Salad loaded with spinach, red cabbage, broccoli, carrots and cauliflower, simple switch for my cancer healing journey

**Thank you for your continued prayers and please pray for other cancer patients who are walking this journey that you may not be aware of.**

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“Grounding and Grafting” into The Hardware Life

August 1, 2025 hardwarelifewife Leave a comment

The world of flight and aviation offers a unique experience, viewing our world in a very different and special way. Air flight offers one the opportunity to be “in the clouds”flying through and above the clouds. Being in and above the clouds presents the possibility to witness a place where our humanity is not truly visible everyday, a new and unique experience.

When I have the opportunity to fly, I always reserve a window seat so I can watch the clouds, and the sky. Graciously, my husband always grants me the courtesy of the window seat. My mind always soars with excitement once the plane begins to reach elevations above the clouds. From the safety of my window seat, I’m able to enjoy the beautiful sight of mountains, river valleys, oceans, and the cloud line below.

I grew up in Wilkes County, where our daily view includes the Blue Ridge Mountains. Simply, as one steps out the back door step, those mountains are sending a glorious daily greeting. I must admit, these mountains “ground” me as I continue to age. Even in the mundane activities of the day, like running errands, or maybe even if you’re headed off to work …those mountains are not far from our view. The mountains “grounded” in nature without the need to explore air travel in order to experience our surrounding beauty.

*Watching a Sunset in our Mountains is simply the best view in the world*

Our home county of Wilkes is rich in local history. Here in Wilkes, Brushy Mountain orchards are bursting with many different varieties of apples and peaches that are harvested each season, bringing the only the best fruits to market and our local festivals. Trees that are typically successfully grafted are fruit trees. Grafting a tree in its absolute simplest form, occurs when two different parts of the tree are joined together as ONE over a period of time.

Beautiful Parker Orchard local peaches in a handcrafted wooden bowl by Keegan Watson

Several months ago I wrote a blog post about being “Rooted in Wilkes” and how “Grafting” has taken place over time in my own life. I’ve been taking time to reflect, and as we head into year TEN in our hardware store ownership, that journey exemplifies grafting. I still can’t believe we are beginning year number TEN in August of 2025.

*Our old historic building was home originally to a local poultry processing plant, our logo is nod back to those times . Check out the link* The Chicken Hat

Who would have thought that the girl who spent her summers running in the grass, barefoot, with a view of the Blue Ridge in the distance, and loved chasing lightning bugs, would “graft” and be firmly “grounded” into the hardware life?

“The Hardware Life”, started TEN years ago, as Richard and I began our new journey into hardware store ownership inside the 1904 era vintage, historic building that still exists on 10th Street in Downtown North Wilkesboro.

It was an exciting, challenging, scary, and ultimately life altering, a full-fledged “grafting” experience. We were going to have to find our “footing” in this new adventure. The thick fog and clouds were looming. We were flying into those unknown/unfamiliar clouds of business ownership. Initially, it was a total cloud fog. Would the skies eventually become clearer???

For us, navigating the thick cloud bank, of hardware store ownership for the first time caused a bit of anxiety. But, I’ll reference a flight analogy, with the sure and steady handiwork of an “experienced flight crew”, the heavy cloud bank was easily navigable. As the aircraft began cruising at higher altitudes, our “clouds” disappearing from view. Yes, we have experience turbulence over the last TEN years. It has been a bit of bumpy ride navigating this new Hardware Life.

To those who helped us navigate through the first stages of hardware store operations and ownership, we are extremely grateful. Thank you for helping us navigate to higher altitudes and enabling us able to gain some “grounded” confidence in our new normal in The Hardware Life.

With this new lesson in being “grounded” in hardware store ownership underway, Richard and I have somehow managed to survive this ever changing economic climate by continuing to adapt to our customers needs and wants.

Just because our building is old, doesn’t mean that we are the keepers of everything of times past. Don’t get me wrong, we treasure those legendary stories of our old 1904 era building and the rustic hardware store. But, holding onto and keeping the “dusty old items” on the shelf that no one is purchasing or needs anymore, will not help us make our bottom line. We have worked hard to build an updated inventory of hardware store essentials. All the while, building a unique hardware community. Richard and I have formed many new friendships with so many great people. We are truly thankful, grateful, and blessed.

*Our building dates back to 1904… look back* If These Walls Could Talk…

When we began this new business venture, Richard was excited about beginning a new career path, and exploring the opportunities to learn more about the inner workings of the hardware industry. He had always been around it, as he worked for a major paint manufacturer for over 20 years. Richard pushed hard for the first few years without me at Wilkes County Hardware.

*Key Making is an Integral Part of our Day to Day Business inside Wilkes County Hardware here’s a quick myth buster guide to keys* Myth Busters: Test Your Knowledge… MYTH v. FACT… Dispelling MYTHS about Common Key Problems

In those first few years of business ownership, I continued to work full time as an educator. My main initial contribution was setting up the social media platforms for our hardware store. Those platforms were maintained and updated regularly by me and I also helped out on weekends and summers as I could. We reset the hardware store to be more accessible to shoppers so merchandise was easier to find. Slowly over time, we have steadily grown a loyal audience on Facebook and Instagram, our hardware community has expanded.

In 2018, I began a blog, The Hardware Life Wife, to share stories about our business and our products. As a novice writer, my blog pieces were fairly short and mostly without pictures. Initially, in early days of blogging, I honestly couldn’t devote much time to focusing on the blog. It was mostly a “summertime project” and I worked on blog posts between planning school lessons while teaching full time.

But, after a few years of consistent blogging, it became a goal of mine to add as many authentic pictures as I could to help break up my longer content pieces that I was now beginning to write.

My blog was changing and grafting into a new direction. I had found that my photography was providing a visual experience for the reader, adding an extra dimension, or as I could say “branch” to the story that was needed. This visual graft, a realistic view, and a liaison to my personal experience, an offering from me to others as a shared experience.

*The Blue Ridge Mountains… where the clouds meet the horizon*

Surprisingly, my personal photos were well received. I was stunned. This new finding was giving me the confidence and the opportunity to share more of my personal photography for which, I’m thankful and extremely grateful. I enjoy sharing snapshots of my daily life. In the last few years, my photography has been featured in the annual Blue Ridge Photography Overview at Wilkes Art Gallery. Local amateur photographers from all over our surrounding area bring their best work to our local gallery to display in this juried exhibition.

Now, in 2025, my blog is a creative outlet for me as well as a way to share with others about our hardware store ownership journey. I am continuing to grow my audience and readership slowly and steadily “grafting” our daily lives into our hardware store business.

As life would have it, after those first few years of business ownership, it was becoming apparent, to both of us, that we needed to grow our business or simply move on. Richard and I decided to be firmly committed and “grounded” in our hardware store business and “graft” together. I launched into early retirement, leaving my 26 years in educational world behind.

How would two very different people manage to work together and still be harmonious? We now had the basics of hardware store ownership “grounded” into our reality. It took a bit of time to adjust to our new daily normal. “Grafting” together our skill sets, combining our strengths and weaknesses, utilizing them to bring the best hardware store experience possible our customers. Grafting at its core definition.

Fruit farmers often graft their fruit trees to create a new variety. The act of grafting… taking one plant cutting and merging with another, creating a unique union and the growth of a new species. Together, we grafted a new hardware reality working together to meet our customers needs, while continuing expanding our hardware store knowledge base.

*Our shelves are fully stocked with customer favorites and needed items*

Working together, Richard and I have slowly made changes inside our historic hardware store walls, such as resetting our shelves and changing the flow of customer traffic. Other avenues we have explored included adding a vast new variety of hardware products into our existing lineup, “Grounding and Grafting” our way through the hardware life.

But probably the most distinctive aspect that we are becoming known for, is finding and curating locally sourced handmade goods. All of these changes, within our small town hardware store “grafted” or combined together, we have tried to create a unique shopping experience for all who visit our old-fashioned hardware store in Downtown North Wilkesboro, locals and visitors alike.

As “grafted and now more grounded” business owners, we know the positive impact of being active within our community. In the last few years, Richard and I have worked alongside other Downtown Merchants, to form The Downtown North Wilkesboro Merchants Association. We both actively participate in this group and we are excited to see this group grow. You may recognize this organization, as we have collectively worked to create, The Spooktacular Festival for our community when the Greenway Trail of Treats was cancelled several years ago and The Spooktacular would serve as an alternative event.

In closing, as we begin year TEN, our Hardware Life story is simple. We thrive on interaction with our customers and our greater community. Without that, we would not exist. That’s how we stay connected and grounded. We have heard too many stories over the last ten years about how old, vintage, authentic hardware stores are just not around anymore. Richard and I are very thankful that our community still supports our local hardware store. Thanks for the opportunity to keep us firmly “grounded” in our community!

*Thanks for allowing us the opportunity to “graft” and grow over the last ten years.* ABC’s of Wilkes County Hardware…

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Spring 2025

June 2, 2025 hardwarelifewife Leave a comment

Spring officially began on March 20th. It’s absolutely amazing to see the changes that surround our world each and everyday during the Spring season. If you blink, you could absolutely miss it! From the tiny, first buds, early flowers, greening of grass, to trees achieving full leaf maturity once again. The Earth is vibrant with the colors of Spring.

The days become longer in this season, bringing us closer to nature as we spend more time outdoors. The entire Spring process is a gradual progression of warming our outer environment all the while, warming and feeding our souls for renewal. Spring… a time of rebirth in nature and also for me. I hope you will enjoy the evolution of Spring of 2025 through my camera lens.

Floral Spring, A Peak Inside The Garden

From the earliest of blooms to the heartiest flowers beginning to emerge as the warmth begins to encompass the outdoors…

I’m personally experimenting with growing **Microgreens** for the first time!!! These gems offer a BIG nutritional boost!!!

When ready to harvest… Cut, rinse, and dry … store in refrigerator after drying thoroughly

Landscape Captures of Spring

As the early days of Spring begins… the leaves were noticeably absent, but as Spring temperatures rise, the changes begin to slowly emerge. How many slight variations can you find from beginning to end of this sequence???

Light Frost… the greening of grass begins

Spring Mountain Time…

A Spring trip back to Buck Mountain to watch these beautiful mountains grow into Spring, and oh my goodness… I’m in awe…

Cicadas…

The arrival of Cicadas in our neighborhood this year is a first. My initial, first memories of these bugs dates back to my childhood playing in my grandparents front yard listening to the consistent, noisy music of these creatures in Elkin, oblivious to their impact on the surrounding landscape.

Now, in present day, each time I go out my back door, those childhood memories come flooding back to the forefront, of those past, playful days, and now, in the process of adding new memories of cicadas in my garden.

I completed a of research about how cicadas life cycle to learn more about the impact of these creatures. My poor little dog, Cookie is so intent on hunting these critters each trip outside that it has become almost impossible for her to accomplish her “natural business”because she gets so distracted by them.

Finding Bigfoot

The legend is strong, about the wandering Sasquatch, in our foothills… Can you believe that he has been spotted at our local grocery store this Spring??? I simply couldn’t resist taking a moment to grab a quick peek for myself and a couple of pics.

Happy Springtime everyone!!! Hope it has been an adventure filled season for you as well!

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New Orleans

March 15, 2025 hardwarelifewife Leave a comment

Artistic expression of the aftermath of Hurricane Katrina across from the convention center where the Spring Orgill Hardware Show was hosted.

New Orleans… A culturally rich city filled with fantastic food! What more could you ask for in a host city for a hardware show??? We first experienced New Orleans in August 2015, at our first hardware show, and 10 years later, we have returned again for another visit to this wonderful city.

We have found that getting to show early helps us navigate the day (less crowded) and we can explore the city later in the afternoon .

Early morning at Orgill Hardware Show… the exhibition floor is full of people getting ready to take it all in…

Fun with friends! Eric and Chelsea explored the Orgill Hardware Show with us the first day of the show.

Always lots to see!!! Million square feet of space in 2 days… We go in with a definite plan now at each show, finding those vendors we need to reach out to, make orders, then we can “shop” for new products that our customers will enjoy.

Richard is checking out a new key machine at the show. We ordered a key machine and it will arrive sometime in April.

Our Orgill Representative, Steve Foster is set to retire later this year. He has helped us navigate our first show as newbies, and we were thankful to have his expertise in year 10. We will miss him tremendously.

The 2025 Orgill hardware show marked our third trip to New Orleans. We accomplished a lot on our to do list! Now it was time to explore the city a bit. A few constants remain from each trip… beignets at Cafe DuMonde, Mardi Gras celebrations in February, and rich, vibrant culture exemplified everywhere you go, along with the AMAZING food. Sharing my unique photo journey from our recent travels, enjoy y’all!

Always a sweet treat with music on the street

Mardi Gras celebrations were in full swing in late February. Homes were decorated with colorful Mardi Gras trees, colorful lights, and outdoor fence areas were lined with decorations to mark the celebrations.

Outdoor Fences were adorned with beads , a visual reminder of Mardi Gras in progress

A Somber Reminder along Bourbon Street…

This makeshift memorial on the corner of Bourbon Street was moved just two days after we arrived to a permanent museum location.

Security along the Mardi Gras parade path was noticeably tighter…

Heavy equipment trucks moving into place prior to the arrival of one of the Mardi Gras parades.

Mardi Gras Parade Highlights…

We walked to many places during our trip, even though the cold weather and wind was significant… I quickly noticed that city sidewalks were a treasure trove of design… “judging a block by its cover”, literally by the manhole covers and drain covers. Here are just a few captures from New Orleans…

Can’t you just see the history in these old Church Doors???

Good food always can be found in New Orleans, some places never disappoint us when we are there in New Orleans and we always make plans to return.

A new wonderful addition to our New Orleans lineup this year! We will go back!

The line was out the door to wait for lunch!!! Menu boasts Sandwiches and unique salad options… best French fries in town!!! Sorry, no picture, I ate them all!!! 😂

Grand Isle… Our favorite place in New Orleans!!!! Never disappoints!!!

Pan roasted chicken with mashed potatoes and mushrooms

Thanks for the memories!! Hope to see you again New Orleans!

FYI: New product arrivals from our shopping days at the New Orleans Hardware show are beginning to arrive! Stop by and shop today at Wilkes County Hardware.

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